Teenagers, come hither

[Going_North_cal]

That's actually super helpful, thank you.

The next time I could possibly see her in person would be at my other friends bday party early next month. Now that I think about it, I'm suddenly very stressed out about it. If she is there, if I go, I will talk to her. And try to set things right.

Thank you, @Szeth's Facepalm

[Hollow Graves]

8 minutes ago, Szeth's Facepalm said:

Ok so i don't know a lot of details and also have never been in a similar situation and also i am smol bean, so this may not be super helpful, but i was helped greatly by folks on here and i shall try to return the favor.

I would make sure she knows that this isn't your choice, that your guardians made you do it, and that you are really sad. Honestly that's all i can really think of to do right now, at this moment. Will you be still able to see her in person? If so, i would try to talk to her then, too, and mention the things again and maybe plan times to hang out together with other friends, so you guys can still be friends.

That's probably not super helpful, but it's all i got for the moment. If i think of anything i'll post it, and i'm really sorry that happened to you

I would agree. Just tell her how you feel and what really happened. Definitely tell her that you didn't have a choice.

I find that sometimes it is the best to talk it over with the other person, or there is worstly hurt feelings. (Is that even a word).

That does suck though dude. Sorry.

[Argus the Awful he/him]

Hmm I might need some advice. There is this girl I've been into for a couple months., idk if I should ask her tho bc we have different political views and I find some of the stuff her friend group does to be directly against my views. I kind of flirted with q couple of her friends as well so she might have reason to not trust me...

I know its a lot but I need advice

[Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him]

1 hour ago, Argus the Awful said:

Hmm I might need some advice. There is this girl I've been into for a couple months., idk if I should ask her tho bc we have different political views and I find some of the stuff her friend group does to be directly against my views. I kind of flirted with q couple of her friends as well so she might have reason to not trust me...

I know its a lot but I need advice

uh, just try to have a good time with her. maybe you should say that you guys both have different beliefs and that is okay.

[Argus the Awful he/him]

Ok, I'll try. Thx!

[Quivil]

3 hours ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said:

uh, just try to have a good time with her. maybe you should say that you guys both have different beliefs and that is okay.

where has your blue gone?

[Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him]

Just now, Tani said:

where has your blue gone?

I do not always talk in blue. but I mainly do.

[Quivil]

ait.

[Just_a_Fan he/him]

qwerty is good.

[The Paradoxical Phenomenon he/him]

Ah not more necromancy 

[Just_a_Fan he/him]

On 5/6/2023 at 1:37 PM, TheAlpha929 said:

Ah not more necromancy 

what is necromancy in this context?

Edited May 8, 2023 by Just_a_Fan_YT
what.

[The Paradoxical Phenomenon he/him]

It’s just that you posted on the thread after over a year. When you post in a dead thread it’s usually called necromancy, and frowned upon for the most part. No worries, but if it’s been dead for over six months it’s probably a good idea to just leave it.

Edited May 8, 2023 by TheAlpha929
Yes.

[Just_a_Fan he/him]

ah oko

[Veledsier]

ok, here goes... ummm... where do I start? Umm.... I have a really big crush on a guy in speech and debate with me.... but he lives in another state and I don't think he knows I exist. But my friend, also in debate wrote this story about me and that guy being in a relationship so now everyone is teasing me about it!!!! I really want to get to know him better! We are the same age same grade, but how to start?! Any advice???? Why can't everything just be like it is in the books???!!!!! 

also, I didn't see the whole.... "this topic is dead" thing.... don't hate me

 

Edited August 13, 2023 by Veledsier

[Experience he/him]

Just talk with him. Trust me, it's so much better if you just talk. I know it's hard, but nothing starts until it starts

[The Isochronism he/him]

4 minutes ago, Veledsier said:

ok, here goes... ummm... where do I start? Umm.... I have a really big crush on a guy in speech and debate with me.... but he lives in another state and I don't think he knows I exist. But my friend, also in debate wrote this story about me and that guy being in a relationship so now everyone is teasing me about it!!!! I really want to get to know him better! We are the same age same grade, but how to start?! Any advice???? Why can't everything just be like it is in the books???!!!!! 

also, I didn't see the whole.... "this topic is dead" thing.... don't hate me

 

People are always saying that "90% of long distance relationships never work out" (or some other statistic that they obviously made up on the spot) and it annoys me. Here's the deal. 99% of ALL relationships don't work out, and that's doubly true in high school. (Yes that statistic is one of the 83% of statistics that's made up on the spot, but I'm just trying to make a point here.) It probably won't work out. Take it from someone who knows: it's worth it anyway. That 1% of relationships that end up working out are so worth it. And those 99% that don't will teach you a lot.

So yeah, text the guy. Today if you can. Just say, "Did you know that 83% of statistics are made up on the spot?" And he'll be like "what the crap r u talking about who r u" (because he's terrible at using proper punctuation and he is silly and he shortens "you" to "u" even though it doesn't make any sense) and then you're like "Funny story, I'm actually..." then you go on introduce yourself and correct his terrible grammar. It works every time. Or text and say literally anything else, just make it casual at first, don't second guess yourself, and be confident. Most guys are pretty chill so he won't be mad at you and he probably won't even think it's weird in any way. (At best, he'll be flattered.) And if you don't have his number, call in a favor with one of your debate friends. Figure out someone who knows! 

Out of curiosity, what debate league are you part of? 

Also, resurrecting dead threads is fun, don't listen to anyone who says otherwise. I definitely "grin" upon it.

[Experience he/him]

Oh also I'm in a long distance relationship. It's hard but def possible.

[Veledsier]

1 hour ago, Bondsmith-Edgedancer said:

People are always saying that "90% of long distance relationships never work out" (or some other statistic that they obviously made up on the spot) and it annoys me. Here's the deal. 99% of ALL relationships don't work out, and that's doubly true in high school. (Yes that statistic is one of the 83% of statistics that's made up on the spot, but I'm just trying to make a point here.) It probably won't work out. Take it from someone who knows: it's worth it anyway. That 1% of relationships that end up working out are so worth it. And those 99% that don't will teach you a lot.

So yeah, text the guy. Today if you can. Just say, "Did you know that 83% of statistics are made up on the spot?" And he'll be like "what the crap r u talking about who r u" (because he's terrible at using proper punctuation and he is silly and he shortens "you" to "u" even though it doesn't make any sense) and then you're like "Funny story, I'm actually..." then you go on introduce yourself and correct his terrible grammar. It works every time. Or text and say literally anything else, just make it casual at first, don't second guess yourself, and be confident. Most guys are pretty chill so he won't be mad at you and he probably won't even think it's weird in any way. (At best, he'll be flattered.) And if you don't have his number, call in a favor with one of your debate friends. Figure out someone who knows! 

Out of curiosity, what debate league are you part of? 

Also, resurrecting dead threads is fun, don't listen to anyone who says otherwise. I definitely "grin" upon it.

thank you guys so much!!!! I'm in STOA btw

[The Isochronism he/him]

On 8/13/2023 at 6:41 PM, Veledsier said:

thank you guys so much!!!! I'm in STOA btw

That's awesome, I'm part of WIDL myself, another independent league for homeschoolers.

[Veledsier]

7 hours ago, Bondsmith-Edgedancer said:

That's awesome, I'm part of WIDL myself, another independent league for homeschoolers.

that's sooo great! you meet soo many great people! It is too bad we aren't in the same league btw, I don't have his number, so I think I found his email and tried that! 

[The Isochronism he/him]

14 hours ago, Veledsier said:

that's sooo great! you meet soo many great people! It is too bad we aren't in the same league btw, I don't have his number, so I think I found his email and tried that! 

It's a shame, I've met the greatest people for sure... Respect for you finding the guy's email though, best of luck to you.