The cheeseman

My grandparents came over for Easter, which means it's time for them to give Unprompted Advice.

There's a guy at my church who owns several small businesses, which is cool and I'm good friends with his oldest son. When we vacationed in South Dakota last year, we (my parents, siblings, and grandparents) stayed at the house they own there.

My grandparents, learning that the owner of the house is a successful businessman, told me (college student struggling to find jobs) that I should work for him doing… literally anything he needs. Which, ig that sometimes we should take any work we can get, but whatever.

When we got home from SD, I talked to the guy's son about working for his dad. He told me that his companies all do work in places an hour or more from where I live in town, and because I'm a college student with classes and homework and social obligations, I didn't press the issue further because I literally do not have the time to be driving an hour or more back and forth to work multiple times a week.

Cut to ealier today, and when I got home from class, my grandfather started grilling me about my five-year plan (I don't have one, I'm a freshman at a community college). After I told him that basically what I've been doing is just homework and applying for jobs (mostly with no responses at all from employers) he once again told me that I should work for my friend's dad doing… whatever I can. I told him that between classes and homework and social obligations, I don't have the time to be driving an hour or more multiple times a week to work. His response?

"Make the time"

By canceling what?? My classes? By not doing hw or putting in the minimum effort and doing badly? Stop working out? I can barely find time to drive 20 minutes to spend a few hours with my girlfriend, I can't work 8+ hour shifts with commutes an hour or more multiple times a week because I am a college student with classes and homework and social obligations. It is literally not possible.