Left he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 I'd take both Delightful's and Twi's at the same time as well as you can. Trying to help her personally is great! But involve adults if you can. Some kinds of decisions really just shouldn't be made by teens if responsible adults can be involved instead or in addition to.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 5 minutes ago, ScottLeft said: I'd take both Delightful's and Twi's at the same time as well as you can. Trying to help her personally is great! But involve adults if you can. Some kinds of decisions really just shouldn't be made by teens if responsible adults can be involved instead or in addition to. As a recovered self-harmer, I say be very careful when it comes to involving adults. Not all adults handle self-harm well. My parents certainly didn't, and while I believe I could've recovered sooner had they not reacted so badly, the fact remains that you have no idea how an adult is going to react to the news. They could be incredibly supportive, or they could react out of fear and drive her even deeper into self-harm. Not to mention that if you tell an adult without her consent or knowledge, she's going to figure out that someone ratted her out before too long, which will almost certainly make her feel hurt and betrayed. Rather than going straight to an adult, see if you can get her to go to an adult she trusts on her own. The whole situation will have a much happier ending if she reaches out to an adult, rather than the other way around. 3
Orlion Blight he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 (edited) I mean...I know you say you're 98 percent sure....But how sure are you? It just seems like too little information. Does she wear long sleeve shirts? Does it seem like she is trying to hide something? As Treebeard might say, "let's not be too hasty!" Particularly if this is a "bring up heavy subject this week, goodbye forever the next." So really, Twi's advice is definitely the way to go since it is helpful whether she is self harming or not. Leaving an impression that she self harms if she doesn't, however, could adversely affect her relationship with others http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/self-injury/symptoms-causes/dxc-20165427 Edited July 25, 2016 by Orlion Determined 1
Silverblade5 he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 At first, Sunbird and I were the only ones in the CAH game, so we both did double servers until more people showed up.
Orlion Blight he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 24 minutes ago, Iron Eyes said: The takeover is imminent... Woo-hoo! Time to use my faster, more secure chip card! *Several decades of waiting for the sale to go through later* 3
Young Bard he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 13 hours ago, The Honor Spren said: A girl at drama showed up the other day with scratches on her wrist. The next day there were a bunch on her leg. I asked her what happened, but she just brushed me off and made a joke about being attacked by a gator. Sooo . . . I'm 98% sure she's cutting herself. What can I do to help her? I've only known her for a month, and after next week I'll probably never see her again. We aren't close. I don't know her parents or anything about her home life. I can't just ask her if she's cutting. What do I do? 13 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: Be cheerful and upbeat around her. Ask her how she's doing. Ask her about her favorite bands, recommend your own. Talk about how amazing the Martians from Sesame Street were. Tell her you're going out with your friends tomorrow night. Ask her if she wants to join. Essentially, treat her like she's normal. Ask her to do normal-teenager stuff. There is a better-than-average chance she started cutting because she felt, on some level, like a freak, and that she feels even more freakish because she can't stop. You can help by countering that illusion. Chances are good she'll turn half of your invitations down, but keep offering. Don't mention the scratches again. She probably knows you're 98 percent sure she's cutting, but she's probably also hoping you'll pretend otherwise. Twi's advice is really good, but if she doesn't really want to hang out or interact, don't force the issue. At the end of the day, you don't really know what's going on in their life. And everybody's different - what worked for Twi might not work for someone else. There was one kid at my school who kept on asking me whether I was OK. Really, after the first few times when I'd said 'yes' almost automatically, it became more annoying than anything else, even though it was well-intentioned. Regarding telling and adult v. not telling an adult, it's really up to you. One of the big questions you have to ask yourself is whether there's a chance that she might take it a step further in the immediate future. If the answer's yes, tell an adult you think can handle the situation discreetly and calmly (school councilors, if your school has one, are trained to deal with that sort of thing). Yes, it might not help her make friends in the immediate future, but at that point it's more important to prevent anything irreversible from happening.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Some people bring their dogs to Comic Con? I just got an idea: (Wo)Man in Black, with Frank.
Quiver he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 8 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: Some people bring their dogs to Comic Con? I just got an idea: (Wo)Man in Black, with Frank. I see your dog, and raise you John Barrowman. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 3 minutes ago, Quiver said: I see your dog, and raise you John Barrowman. There are no pugs in those pictures. However, they are amazing.
Quiver he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 (edited) 7 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: There are no pugs in those pictures. However, they are amazing. Maybe we should drop this line of conversation before this happens: Edited July 25, 2016 by Quiver 4
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Just now, Quiver said: Maybe we should drop this line of conversation before this happens: Why not bring a pug AND John Barrowman to Comic Con? Win-win! 6
Silverblade5 he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 50 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: Why not bring a pug AND John Barrowman to Comic Con? Win-win! Because there's not enough space in your bags for all the dog food?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 24 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said: Because there's not enough space in your bags for all the dog food? You underestimate my power. 2
Edgedancer he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 1 hour ago, Quiver said: Maybe we should drop this line of conversation before this happens: Two problems here Quiver, not only is your meme outdated (or I guess this could turn into Civil War III ) but there will not be equal sides, should you stand against the pugs. 2
Delightful Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 1 hour ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: Why not bring a pug AND John Barrowman to Comic Con? Win-win! Why don't you bring John Barrowman dressed as a pug? Or a pug dressed as John Barrowman dressed as a pug?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 2 minutes ago, Delightful said: Why don't you bring John Barrowman dressed as a pug? Or a pug dressed as John Barrowman dressed as a pug? And deny the Internet the chance to squee over John Barrowman holding a pug? 2
Delightful Posted July 25, 2016 Author Posted July 25, 2016 Just now, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said: And deny the Internet the chance to squee over John Barrowman holding a pug? I never said he couldn't also be holding a pug. What do you think I am, a savage?
Kaymyth she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 13 hours ago, Orlion Determined said: I mean...I know you say you're 98 percent sure....But how sure are you? It just seems like too little information. Does she wear long sleeve shirts? Does it seem like she is trying to hide something? As Treebeard might say, "let's not be too hasty!" Particularly if this is a "bring up heavy subject this week, goodbye forever the next." So really, Twi's advice is definitely the way to go since it is helpful whether she is self harming or not. Leaving an impression that she self harms if she doesn't, however, could adversely affect her relationship with others http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/self-injury/symptoms-causes/dxc-20165427 Yeah, I mean....there's still the outside possibility that she has a very overenthusiastic kitten at home. Just be a friend. If she has problems, she's not going to open up to someone she doesn't trust.
ThirdGen Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 1 hour ago, Edgedancer said: Two problems here Quiver, not only is your meme outdated (or I guess this could turn into Civil War III ) but there will not be equal sides, should you stand against the pugs. 8
The Honor Spren she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 1 hour ago, Kaymyth said: Yeah, I mean....there's still the outside possibility that she has a very overenthusiastic kitten at home. Just be a friend. If she has problems, she's not going to open up to someone she doesn't trust. Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Thanks for the help, guys!
Silverblade5 he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Does anyone here have much experience with nooks? Mine has stopped responding to touch commands.
RippleGylf she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 31 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said: Does anyone here have much experience with nooks? Mine has stopped responding to touch commands. What kind of nook?
Silverblade5 he/him Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 1 minute ago, RippleGylf said: What kind of nook? Simple touch with glowlight
RippleGylf she/her Posted July 25, 2016 Posted July 25, 2016 Just now, Silverblade5 said: Simple touch with glowlight I've got a plain old simple touch. I don't know what advice I could give you, aside from turning it off and back on again. Sorry I can't be of more help.
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