Mental health club!

[Keke They/he]

So if you know I've been a bit sick recently. Today I can't go to school cause of it but I am switching into a new class and I feel completely useless about not being there. I also hate missing the first day of the new semester and everything and I have already had a breakdown this morning. Can anyone offer some advice or something to help out?

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

2 hours ago, Thee insane said:

So if you know I've been a bit sick recently. Today I can't go to school cause of it but I am switching into a new class and I feel completely useless about not being there. I also hate missing the first day of the new semester and everything and I have already had a breakdown this morning. Can anyone offer some advice or something to help out?

*hugs*

Just realize that it's out of your control, okay? I know that might not be the easiest thing to do, but trying to internalize that something isn't your fault (when it's true, obviously) will really help how you feel mentally.

2 hours ago, strmblsd said:

i think that i probably belong here

*hug* yeah, I unfortunately agree

We're here for you, dude

2 hours ago, Halcyon The Only said:

YOU KNOW WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE?

 DANG

YEAH lol

He's a math teacher, also 

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs*

Just realize that it's out of your control, okay? I know that might not be the easiest thing to do, but trying to internalize that something isn't your fault (when it's true, obviously) will really help how you feel mentally.

*hugs back* thank you ill try my best

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

3 hours ago, Thee insane said:

So if you know I've been a bit sick recently. Today I can't go to school cause of it but I am switching into a new class and I feel completely useless about not being there. I also hate missing the first day of the new semester and everything and I have already had a breakdown this morning. Can anyone offer some advice or something to help out?

Just give yourself grace, I think. 

And wear somethin SMOKIN tomorrow so when you come in second day of the semester they’re all like WHAAAA 

and you can pose like mmhmm I know im perfect 

33 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs*

Just realize that it's out of your control, okay? I know that might not be the easiest thing to do, but trying to internalize that something isn't your fault (when it's true, obviously) will really help how you feel mentally.

*hug* yeah, I unfortunately agree

We're here for you, dude

YEAH lol

He's a math teacher, also 

A MATH TEACHER??

 Ok I actually have a lot of respect for math teachers tho. 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, Halcyon The Only said:

Just give yourself grace, I think. 

And wear somethin SMOKIN tomorrow so when you come in second day of the semester they’re all like WHAAAA 

and you can pose like mmhmm I know im perfect 

A MATH TEACHER??

 Ok I actually have a lot of respect for math teachers tho. 

Ye

[Keke They/he]

Just now, Halcyon The Only said:

Just give yourself grace, I think. 

And wear somethin SMOKIN tomorrow so when you come in second day of the semester they’re all like WHAAAA 

and you can pose like mmhmm I know im perfect 

A MATH TEACHER??

 Ok I actually have a lot of respect for math teachers tho. 

That's solid. Thanks for that. 

[MirkerLurker she/her]

10 hours ago, Thee insane said:

So if you know I've been a bit sick recently. Today I can't go to school cause of it but I am switching into a new class and I feel completely useless about not being there. I also hate missing the first day of the new semester and everything and I have already had a breakdown this morning. Can anyone offer some advice or something to help out?

*hugs*
I also panic at being late, or missing something, showing up partway through. Have for as long as I can remember.

I second the advice from Haly and Glass of "give yourself grace, remind yourself it wasn't under your control and it's ok to let go of that". For in-the-moment panic, I use a grounding technique that focuses on breathing. Slowly in and out, and focusing my thoughts on something like "It was not my fault. It will be ok." And then rehearse how I'm going to enter, so I can be (or rather, look) confident in my entrance, even if internally I'm panicking.
I also love Haly's idea of wear something smokin and just own that class. Rock your way in and embrace it. 

Tangentially related, there's a whole psychology behind "act like you belong, and everyone else will follow your lead". Or "Faked confidence works just like the real thing." It sometimes helps my anxiety to remember that if I fake-project confidence - if I go through the physical motions of it, even if inside I'm screaming in terror - people will respond to the way I behave, and not notice the internal panic. I've practiced pushing my shoulders back, keeping my eyes up, and rehearsing a few sentences over and over before making a grand "confident" entrance. 
...sometimes that "rehearsing" takes 30 minutes in the hallway outside the door. But not always! And it often works!

[Keke They/he]

12 hours ago, MirkerLurker said:

*hugs*
I also panic at being late, or missing something, showing up partway through. Have for as long as I can remember.

I second the advice from Haly and Glass of "give yourself grace, remind yourself it wasn't under your control and it's ok to let go of that". For in-the-moment panic, I use a grounding technique that focuses on breathing. Slowly in and out, and focusing my thoughts on something like "It was not my fault. It will be ok." And then rehearse how I'm going to enter, so I can be (or rather, look) confident in my entrance, even if internally I'm panicking.
I also love Haly's idea of wear something smokin and just own that class. Rock your way in and embrace it. 

Tangentially related, there's a whole psychology behind "act like you belong, and everyone else will follow your lead". Or "Faked confidence works just like the real thing." It sometimes helps my anxiety to remember that if I fake-project confidence - if I go through the physical motions of it, even if inside I'm screaming in terror - people will respond to the way I behave, and not notice the internal panic. I've practiced pushing my shoulders back, keeping my eyes up, and rehearsing a few sentences over and over before making a grand "confident" entrance. 
...sometimes that "rehearsing" takes 30 minutes in the hallway outside the door. But not always! And it often works!

Thanks

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

*deep breath*

*screams*

hey guys

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

Just now, Through The Living Glass said:

*deep breath*

*screams*

hey guys

Hug?

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, KnightSkye said:

Hug?

*hugs first*

yes please

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

2 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs first*

yes please

*hugs* 

*more hugs*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, KnightSkye said:

*hugs* 

*more hugs*

*hugs back*

thanks

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

9 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*deep breath*

*screams*

hey guys

 

8 minutes ago, KnightSkye said:

Hug?

 

7 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs first*

yes please

*all the hugs*

Can I have some too? I'm incredibly frustrated right now. 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, Halcyon The Only said:

 

 

*all the hugs*

Can I have some too? I'm incredibly frustrated right now. 

*hugs*

*hugshugs*

Yayyyyy we can be frustrated and depressed togetherrrrrr

*sigh*

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

7 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs*

*hugshugs*

Yayyyyy we can be frustrated and depressed togetherrrrrr

*sigh*

so fun. I'm so excited 

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

1 minute ago, Halcyon The Only said:

so fun. I'm so excited 

 

9 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugs*

*hugshugs*

Yayyyyy we can be frustrated and depressed togetherrrrrr

*sigh*

*hugs everyone. Cause I have long arms and can do that.*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, KnightSkye said:

 

*hugs everyone. Cause I have long arms and can do that.*

grr

dang tall people

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

Just now, Through The Living Glass said:

grr

dang tall people

sorry! I'm actually not that tall, I just have a wide wingspan.

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

5 minutes ago, KnightSkye said:

 

*hugs everyone. Cause I have long arms and can do that.*

Aw my beautiful long armed son 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

3 minutes ago, KnightSkye said:

sorry! I'm actually not that tall, I just have a wide wingspan.

. . . scudding tall people 

Spoiler

I don't remember how tall you are but I remember you were taller than me

 

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

2 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

. . . scudding tall people 

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I don't remember how tall you are but I remember you were taller than me

 

5 feet, 6 5/8 inches. 

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, KnightSkye said:

5 feet, 6 5/8 inches. 

yep

*sigh*

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

4 minutes ago, KnightSkye said:

5 feet, 6 5/8 inches. 

HAH IM TALLER THAN YOU EHEHEHEHEE

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

1 minute ago, Through The Living Glass said:

yep

*sigh*

*leans down to hug consolingly.*