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It's real powerful that you can share your thoughts here. This really is a beautiful place. I'm glad you're here to help lift the bridge with us.
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I was really struggling this morning with the memories of a friend that ended his battle with depression. Most days I can think happy thoughts and remember the good times. Today dark thoughts swarmed me and it was incredibly overwhelming. So I reached out to a mutual friend and had a little cry. He was thinking about the same friend all morning and was thankful I called him. It feels a little like healing. Having my friend there telling me it's going to be okay. Like God went before me and prepared my friend for my phone call. I guess I'm sharing because I want you all to know that you don't have to struggle alone. Talk about your thoughts. Especially talk about your suicidal ideations. It's important to put it out there. You could be surprised at what you learn about the people close to you when you're open in this way. Well thanks for reading and being part of this forum. Love you all. And remember, we lift the bridge together... And we carry it.
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HEY U BONFTRHAND
I HAVENT SEEN U IN A BIT
U GOOD DUDE?
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Yep yep. Just busy. On the topic of Sanderson, my mom just read Tress and absolutely loved it. Bawled her eyes out oflver Tress and Charlie lol! She had some unique insights too. Just about how Tress is a protector and her commitment to self was extraordinary. How she never lost sight of what was right in front of her while maintaining focus on the overall mission of Charlie. That's why she stood out from Crow.
Anyway, thanks for checking in on me homie!
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Okay well that's all I needed to hear I will definitely read them in release order from here on out
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I've only just finished Oathbringer and Renarin's story is barley coming to light. He's one of the characters I'm excited for in the next couple books. In a only slightly related topic. Having finished the 3rd, I think now is the time to read Edge dancer and Dawn shard due to wanting to read them as close to release order as possible. However I very much want to start Rythm of War. Is there a consensus on a right or wrong way to go about including the novellas?
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Thank you both. Things like Bridge Four and Dalinar's understanding of The Way of Kings, does give a sliver of peace. I think of it a bit like the lord ruler. He was said to be a sliver of preservation. And much like our understanding of Preservation, peace seems to be shrouded in darkness and confusion. I'm really enjoying the parallels to the books that we're drawing up tonight.
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I'm real sorry you're experiencing such terrible urges. I used to cut and I know the desire. The path you're on does have good outcomes. Just remember what we learned in the Way of Kings. The next step is the most important one. You can do this. And never forget, that feeling of being alone is a lie told to us by the enemy so that we will die a thousand little deaths before killing ourselves for real. You are not alone. These connections we make matter and the belief of a stranger can be a powerful thing. I do believe in you. "progress isn't always linear" This is a powerful reminder that failure is part of every success. Mistakes make us who we are. We must accept our mistakes and our failures. Damnation do these books just have every great mental health lesson wrapped up into them??! Dalinar and Kaladin might as well be running grief counseling sessions lol.
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Good evening! It's nice to meet you. It's incredibly brave of you to write these things. You do matter. I've had similar questions most my life and it's been these last two years that have been hardest. I choose to believe it's because I'm doing something right and I'm winning and the enemy is fighting back. For myself, I had to find conviction. Something to believe in. I'm still searching and I don't have answers yet. But... Journey before destination right. The next step you take is the most important one. You can do this. I know because I did it. I know the sound the rope makes as it loosens. It is possible to put those thoughts down and choose a different, much harder path. It's harder because life is hard and you will be alive to experience it. I don't know you but I believe in you because a stranger once believed in me and it helped. You've got this.
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Good evening! I'm new and wanted to introduce myself with a story about something that happened today. Today I had an emotional response to something Kaladin said to Teft. "We lift the bridge together,Teft. And we carry it." I finally understood Bridge Four in that moment. It hit me hard and I'm not ashamed to say that I pulled my car over and I wept a little. Years ago I left my home to make a new one in the military. What they didn't tell us is death follows you home in ways you can't know about until you're drowning in alcohol while your best friend suck starts a shotgun or your brother puts a rope around his own neck. I'm grown now. Retired from all that. I deliver baked goods now. Pastries and coffee. I put down alcohol. I watch my daughter play soccer. And I think about the five gaps under the bridge where my friends used to stand. And how I wasn't there for them when they decided to die. And I cry. When I'm done crying I call my friends. I'm lucky to still have three friends willing to lift this bridge with me. And I'm thankful that Sanderson has given me a framework for understanding this kind of pain. Bridge Four has a profound new meaning to me today. I'm also thankful for this platform and this forum for mental health. I've struggled with suicidal ideation for 29 years and I am still here. If anyone else is out there wanting to die, let's talk about it and see if we can't lift this bridge together.
