Hmm in my view these dichotomies that you present as not as generalized to religion as they are made out to be - but are rather a feature of Christianity. The concept of what even separates religion from other philosophies/ways of living is a very Western/Abrahamic construction and is historically relatively recent. In China, for example, there is the three teaching model of Confucianism, Buddhism, and Daoism, which can all be considered religions in their own right, but also chafe against that categorization for various reasons. At times one may be more or less dominant but they are often seen to govern different parts of life. Another piece here is that Christianity is a particular orthodox religion, meaning that the ideas & the scripture are particularly important. Meanwhile, other religions like Islam are more orthopractic, meaning the rituals and doing-focused aspects are more important, as opposed to the actual scripture itself.
I bring this up because I don’t think this system of failing to meeting obligations or live up to their ideals is a feature of religion, and nor do I believe that Christians who do not take their religion wholesale are bad people/bad at religion because they do not find every teaching to be useful to their lives. Some of the most devout people I know are ones who have a very personal relationship with the scripture and have arrived at interpretations that allow for things that others would not, or take issue with aspects other people take for granted.
I know that Christianity is especially relevant here given Brandon’s personal beliefs and the composition of his audience, but I feel that it’s useful to take a step back when categorizing religion writ-large.