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Why can't it be? It's really damn hard being trans, being in a body that doesn't suit oneself, knowing there's a large part of society that hates me; why would anyone want this? Only real reason is because it's who you are. Here's a question: Would you rather be a cis guy, or a cis girl?
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Weak. I can. I'm very stubborn This feels like I'm arguing with a (female) wall. If you don't want to be cis, you almost certainly aren't. There haven't been very many cases of people being wrong about being trans, but you know what there have been a lot of cases of? Worrying that one isn't trans and is just faking it, only to figure out that yes, they were trans. You can increase the font sizes of most devices. I didn't know I was trans for 14.75 years. Until then, it wasn't an issue. The dysphoria only really started afterwords. This one is probably right, actually. If you can get your parents to realize how horrible you feel, they will probably be more inclined to help you.
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You're being hurt by your deadname, right? Then it's perfectly reasonable to ask them to use your chosen name. Then you should really do something. Please. Find someone IRL you can confide in. Confront your parents and be more assertive. Just something to help yourself. You said it yourself, if you wait, it'll feel horrible, so you should take action. If you're hurting, you should take action to stop it.
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Oh my god, you are so very clearly hurt when you're seen as a guy. You want to be a girl. I have never met a trans-questioning person who wasn't trans. Did you read the gender dysphoria bible?
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@Aeoryi, you literally wrote multiple paragraphs about how you can't handle waiting 9 months to transition. These are not the thoughts of a cis person. (I'll answer the rest of your post soon)
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I remember thinking that. Then I read on the (iconic) Gender Dysphoria Bible (paraphrased) "If you're worried that you aren't trans, you probably are."
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Well, it could hurt. But, out of the forms of rhetoric, I'd say that pathos (emotion) is the most effective. I don't know how much you let on, but I think there's a chance that if you make it blatant how much this hurts you, they'll come around. Maybe there's someone in your family more supportive than the rest? If there was just one person IRL you could be yourself around, I think it would really help. You said that your mom wants you to wait 9 months. Maybe, at the very least, you could convince them to lower that number to 6. When school ends, rather than university beginning. (I publicly came out when my last middle school year ended) And then, if she knows about HRT, you could argue for starting it even earlier, since effects take awhile to become apparent to others. Idk, maybe none of this will work, but I think you should try and be a little more assertive. I don't think you're going to get much done if you just passively wait until things get better. Worst case scenario is that you still have to wait 9 months. I'll write up another post trying to help you with more personal identity stuff
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oh sorry I said that based on what @Aeoryi said with the website but yeah I shouldn't have said that.
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(@Honors Ghost stalking my profile so she can agree with whatever I say) Well, do you know any trans people in your life? The first person I came out to IRL was another trans person that I kinda knew, and that worked out very well. I think a good question to ask yourself is "Would I rather be a girl"
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Ugh, that ****ing sucks. Such a difficult conundrum. I don't have any ideas right now about what you could do. I won't stop thinking though, I really wanna help you. At the very least, I'll try and help you with dysphoria, if I can't help you with your parents.
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I believed "cracked your egg" would be the more correct terminology. Let us know if you need more help beyond the website.
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Gender dysphoria bible is iconic. It helped me out, and I showed it to this thread who now show it to the newcomer trans questioning people
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oh hey I'm back Yeah I totally get that, while it's not invalid, we don't want them to think that this isn't something you figured out yourself. But you could make it clear that you knew this for a long time, without mentioning the internet. (oh look while I was typing this @Honors Ghost already said it) I think telling your mom about feminizing hormone therapy and stuff would be a good first step for what I am pretty sure is what convinced my mom that it was the right choice for me: Namely, the statistics that show that it has improved the quality of life of pretty much everyone who gets it. I could get some studies for you if you need them.
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Oh yeah for real, I've been on HRT for like 4 months, and while I've noticed changes, they aren't really noticeable for anyone else. (Very tiny breasts and mostly mental effects)
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If that's the case, I think she clearly isn't really supporting you. Maybe go for it, and then try and make it clear how much it means to you. I'll try and help more when I get home and can use my laptop to type faster
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Mostly minor things, but yeah, I've done it. I imagine I could do something more major if a larger conflict actually happened.
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I see, then. That must all suck. Do you need parental consent from one parent or both? Also, what is your mother's argument, I might be able to help you come up with a good counterargument. (I'd like to think I'm a good debater, as I've actually convinced my parents of things in the past.)
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What's the status of how much your parents know and what they feel and stuff? I forgot if you mentioned.
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Ah sorry I disappeared for half an hour I'm doing alright, although annoyed the weekend is almost over.
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Hey everyone I'm finally here! You have like 3 hoodies you need to be more specific Average @Theory behavior How are things going, @Aeoryi?
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Yeah, I'm just getting to bed now lol (I need to have better sleep schedule. Oh well.)
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Girl that's so real. Huh, this kinda surprised me. I just kinda assumed that since it seemed like you knew you were trans for longer than I do, you would have more of a handle on it and stuff, but I realize now that that's not necessarily the case. I'd love to try and help you out, give you advice/support if you wanna talk about this more.
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How so?
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So, The Matrix, (1999). A huge trans allegory. Non-spoiler stuff: The sisters who wrote/directed it were both trans women, who realized this some time after making it. They later stated that it was a trans allegory, though they did not realize this at the time of making it. Spoiler stuff (if you are trans or like good movies you should watch it)
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Well I'm always right so As I understand it, it's a regional thing. I think in more progressive areas where there's more understanding of queer issues they have more distinction like that.
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