And it is those unsaid reasons that are why I’ve stopped calling her a nerd (at least out loud) out of respect for what they may be.
(And Eddie, I’m not just a nerd, I’m a BAND nerd. Most if not all of the people who call you a nerd see it as a compliment, whether or not you see yourself as one. The definition of nerd is just someone who’s very knowledgeable about a certain thing, and I’m sure you have your things.)