If I may be so bold I will explain what I know of how not to lose yourself.
For me my anchor is Christ and The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They keep me anchored because through the gospel I have learned that I am a son of god and he wants me to come back to him. I know that you are a daughter of god and he loves and cares for you Elf. He is always there and his hand is stretched out continually, waiting for you to accept it and come back to him. I know that god lives, that Jesus Christ is his son and that he has a plan for you.