I can't find this theory anywhere else on the forum, so I'm hoping it's not a rehash.
I have an idea about emotional allomancy that I am having a hard time thinking of how to explain. So I'll try to explain it by analogy to physical allomancy.
"When you push against something - whether with allomancy or with your hands - it goes directly in the opposite direction. Force, reactions, consequences." - TFE, Nook edition p. 136
When you Push (steel) on something, you increase the distance between yourself and that object. If it is smaller than you this happens as the object moves farther away, and if it is bigger it happens as you move away from the object. Similarly, when you Pull (iron) on something, you decrease the distance. Again, the heavier, larger object stays stationary and the lighter, smaller object moves.
Is it possible that emotional allomancy works the same way? If I try to Push (soothe, Brass) on someone's emotions, but their emotions are "heavier" than mine (deeper, more stable, etc), would I instead be pushed the other way?
Imagine a situation in which Allomancer A is with Friend F who is afraid. F is really really firmly solid in his fear. A is trying to not be afraid, so is more calm than F, but not really solid. If A tries to Soothe away (Push) F's fear, would F's fear Push back since it is "heavier" than A's calm?
"Force, reactions, consequences."