The A-spec Corner

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

I thought it would be nice for everyone under the a-spec to have a place to gather and chat

So, here we are

If anyone is unfamiliar with the term “a-spec” (because I was until like yesterday):

A shortened term for “a-spectrum” that refers to those that fall on the asexual, aromantic, and agender spectrums

I personally identify as aromantic

 

Welcome y’all

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Ah lovely, this is cool.

 

I'm somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but I'm not certain where. I see my girlfriend as an extremely close friend, but I still act in a way which might be typical for a romantic relationship. She also feels similar toward me. It's possible we just feel this way because of autism, but I'd say that that doesn't mean we aren't aro-spec.

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

2 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Ah lovely, this is cool.

 

I'm somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but I'm not certain where. I see my girlfriend as an extremely close friend, but I still act in a way which might be typical for a romantic relationship. She also feels similar toward me. It's possible we just feel this way because of autism, but I'd say that that doesn't mean we aren't aro-spec.

Have you ever heard of QPRs?

Queer-platonic relationships

Basically platonic relationships that go beyond typical friendships in feelings and actions, but aren’t inherently romantic

 

(I’ve got a lot of aro terms in my vocabulary now, ‘cause I can’t do anything for my identity this month because parents don’t think aromanticism exists)

[Hmmm lies she/her]

1 minute ago, Rynturning_Light said:

Have you ever heard of QPRs?

Queer-platonic relationships

Basically platonic relationships that go beyond typical friendships in feelings and actions, but aren’t inherently romantic

 

(I’ve got a lot of aro terms in my vocabulary now, ‘cause I can’t do anything for my identity this month because parents don’t think aromanticism exists)

I have, and that's what we consider our relationship to be. Still, sometimes I look at aromantic stuff on the internet and find that I can't really relate to a lot of it. Some of the gay stuff we do together seems like stuff a lot of aro people wouldn't do.

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

3 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

I have, and that's what we consider our relationship to be. Still, sometimes I look at aromantic stuff on the internet and find that I can't really relate to a lot of it. Some of the gay stuff we do together seems like stuff a lot of aro people wouldn't do.

What things?

I can weigh-in as a raging aro, if you’d want

It’s also fair to keep in mind that the aro-spec is wide and all inclusive, in some form

[Hmmm lies she/her]

3 minutes ago, Rynturning_Light said:

What things?

I can weigh-in as a raging aro, if you’d want

It’s also fair to keep in mind that the aro-spec is wide and all inclusive, in some form

Like kissing, intimate hugging, and we still call each other girlfriend and that we're dating. Our aroness kind of comes from the way we perceive each other: As really close platonic friends.

 

Yeah, I call myself aro-spec, I just don't know if I'm fully aro, but I haven't been able to find a good label that is well-known enough for anyone to know what i'm talking about.

 

I also have weird views on romance in media, that I don't know if I could describe if I tried. I do find shipping characters in fandoms to be fun sometimes though.

Edited June 12 by Hmmm lies

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

34 minutes ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I thought it would be nice for everyone under the a-spec to have a place to gather and chat

So, here we are

If anyone is unfamiliar with the term “a-spec” (because I was until like yesterday):

A shortened term for “a-spectrum” that refers to those that fall on the asexual, aromantic, and agender spectrums

I personally identify as aromantic

 

Welcome y’all

Ooo, awesome!!! This is cool!!!!

I am asexual and I think possibly somewhere on the aromatic spectrum. 

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

1 hour ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I thought it would be nice for everyone under the a-spec to have a place to gather and chat

So, here we are

If anyone is unfamiliar with the term “a-spec” (because I was until like yesterday):

A shortened term for “a-spectrum” that refers to those that fall on the asexual, aromantic, and agender spectrums

I personally identify as aromantic

 

Welcome y’all

I am Aromantic and a Demiboy, which means I am too chicken to be full Agender, but still feel some connection to They/Them

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

3 hours ago, Hmmm lies said:

Like kissing, intimate hugging, and we still call each other girlfriend and that we're dating. Our aroness kind of comes from the way we perceive each other: As really close platonic friends.

 

Yeah, I call myself aro-spec, I just don't know if I'm fully aro, but I haven't been able to find a good label that is well-known enough for anyone to know what i'm talking about.

 

I also have weird views on romance in media, that I don't know if I could describe if I tried. I do find shipping characters in fandoms to be fun sometimes though.

I mean, what I find in my personal aro feelings is that I really appreciate the intimate stuff (hugging, cuddling), but I just cannot seem to go beyond them in a non-romantic way

And yeah, I like seeing characters/romantic relationships in fiction. I just can’t get behind it for myself irl

2 hours ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

I am Aromantic and a Demiboy, which means I am too chicken to be full Agender, but still feel some connection to They/Them

well, you’re in the right place

[KaladinsSenseOfHumourSpren He/Him]

5 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I thought it would be nice for everyone under the a-spec to have a place to gather and chat

So, here we are

If anyone is unfamiliar with the term “a-spec” (because I was until like yesterday):

A shortened term for “a-spectrum” that refers to those that fall on the asexual, aromantic, and agender spectrums

I personally identify as aromantic

 

Welcome y’all

Hello!

I am aro, I realised only recently.

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

2 hours ago, KaladinsSenseOfHumourSpren said:

Hello!

I am aro, I realised only recently.

Oh yea

I vanished when you declared that

Welcome under the banner

We’re happy to have you:)

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Howdy folks
I’m not entirely sure what I am or if I even belong here

First I thought I was straightforwardly bi, then I thought I was biromantic/asexual, then demisexual
And now I really have no idea

I’ve been trying to do some research to varying degrees of success 
As best I can tell, I experience both romantic and sensual attraction but have little to no interest in sex itself 
And romantic/sensual attraction only with people I’ve already known for a long time and already gotten close to 
So
Yeah 
I don’t know lol

It’s complicated 

Edited June 13 by SpartanBrigade

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

Super duper random, but thanks for showing up here

I can’t rep being aro in real life, so it’s nice to feel like I actually have a community lol

I don’t know, I’m sappy at the moment

[Vielence She/Her]

Hey y’all

Im relatively sure I fall under the aromantic spectrum, and am exploring this past of my life more. 
 

Look forward to hanging with all of you

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

On 6/12/2026 at 12:57 PM, Rynturning_Light said:

I mean, what I find in my personal aro feelings is that I really appreciate the intimate stuff (hugging, cuddling), but I just cannot seem to go beyond them in a non-romantic way

And yeah, I like seeing characters/romantic relationships in fiction. I just can’t get behind it for myself irl

well, you’re in the right place

I have recently discovered I feel sensual attraction (is that how it works) very strongly. I guess as some people would say it, physical touch is my love language.

I like hugs, and just the physical confirmation I am near some body. But most of my friends are introverts who don't like physical touch, which I try to respect, but I just don't do it so much that it has made my behavior kinda erratic.

On 6/12/2026 at 6:20 PM, SpartanBrigade said:

Howdy folks
I’m not entirely sure what I am or if I even belong here

First I thought I was straightforwardly bi, then I thought I was biromantic/asexual, then demisexual
And now I really have no idea

I’ve been trying to do some research to varying degrees of success 
As best I can tell, I experience both romantic and sensual attraction but have little to no interest in sex itself 
And romantic/sensual attraction only with people I’ve already known for a long time and already gotten close to 
So
Yeah 
I don’t know lol

It’s complicated 

It's always complicated. You could be demibiromantic/asexual.

I have found that searching for labels is always painful if you can't find the right one, and labels as a whole are stupid, but being without them can also be hard.

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

20 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

I have recently discovered I feel sensual attraction (is that how it works) very strongly. I guess as some people would say it, physical touch is my love language.

I like hugs, and just the physical confirmation I am near some body. But most of my friends are introverts who don't like physical touch, which I try to respect, but I just don't do it so much that it has made my behavior kinda erratic.

It's always complicated. You could be demibiromantic/asexual.

I have found that searching for labels is always painful if you can't find the right one, and labels as a whole are stupid, but being without them can also be hard.

Yeah it’s more of a secondary thing 
I’m not going through a crisis or anything but I would like to know 

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

14 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Yeah it’s more of a secondary thing 
I’m not going through a crisis or anything but I would like to know 

Yeah that's fair.

[Hmmm lies she/her]

42 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

I like hugs, and just the physical confirmation I am near some body. But most of my friends are introverts who don't like physical touch, which I try to respect, but I just don't do it so much that it has made my behavior kinda erratic.

Haha yeah, I'm pretty similar, except I would feel too weird and embarrassed to hug anyone but my girlfriend. Sensual attraction is big in me.

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

21 hours ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

I have recently discovered I feel sensual attraction (is that how it works) very strongly. I guess as some people would say it, physical touch is my love language.

I like hugs, and just the physical confirmation I am near some body. But most of my friends are introverts who don't like physical touch, which I try to respect, but I just don't do it so much that it has made my behavior kinda erratic.

I have a literal ranking system of how much physical contact I'm okay with from people I know, and for nearly everyone it's Absolutely Nothing apart from very, very occasionally Hugs If I Like You.

Spoiler

I think I should probably figure out the sensory issues first before I figure out the kinds of attraction 

 

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

Oh guys I should probably tell yall about my idiot friends who don't understand how aromanticism works

so I was talking to my friends and I was like, "Oh yeah, I'm aromantic" "What does that mean?" "It means I don't feel love." "So you're gay?" "No, I don't feel romantic attraction at all" "So you just haven't found someone you like yet" "THAT'S NOT HOW THAT WORKS"

T^T

And don't even start me on people's reactions when they understand what aromantic means and what it means when I say I am not asexual T^T

one guy literally then said "oh this is the kinda guy that watches-" and I think you can infer what he said after that T^T

If you can't, then I wish I had your innocence.

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

21 hours ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Oh guys I should probably tell yall about my idiot friends who don't understand how aromanticism works

so I was talking to my friends and I was like, "Oh yeah, I'm aromantic" "What does that mean?" "It means I don't feel love." "So you're gay?" "No, I don't feel romantic attraction at all" "So you just haven't found someone you like yet" "THAT'S NOT HOW THAT WORKS"

T^T

And don't even start me on people's reactions when they understand what aromantic means and what it means when I say I am not asexual T^T

one guy literally then said "oh this is the kinda guy that watches-" and I think you can infer what he said after that T^T

If you can't, then I wish I had your innocence.

Bro

That sucks

My parents don’t understand aromanticism either, and when I try and explain to them what exactly is up with me it doesn’t go well

I just let it drop now. Talk about it with my also aro or ace friends and just let it rest. It’s not worth the arguments and misunderstandings and the constant being told “you’re just confused” or “you haven’t met the right person yet” (bleh)

That last part tho. Ick. People need to back the hell up sometimes (a lot of the time)

anyways

any of my aro-spec buddies:

have yall ever like taken (vague) love songs as platonic? ‘Cause a lot of them have some good messages/lyrics that work with platonic love and I do so enjoy taking them as that

I am a decently lovey person and I do want to have things that relate to that but there are so many love songs. Might as well pick and choose to my experience as I like, y’know?

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

2 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

Bro

That sucks

My parents don’t understand aromanticism either, and when I try and explain to them what exactly is up with me it doesn’t go well

I just let it drop now. Talk about it with my also aro or ace friends and just let it rest. It’s not worth the arguments and misunderstandings and the constant being told “you’re just confused” or “you haven’t met the right person yet” (bleh)

That last part tho. Ick. People need to back the hell up sometimes (a lot of the time)

anyways

any of my aro-spec buddies:

have yall ever like taken (vague) love songs as platonic? ‘Cause a lot of them have some good messages/lyrics that work with platonic love and I do so enjoy taking them as that

I am a decently lovey person and I do want to have things that relate to that but there are so many love songs. Might as well pick and choose to my experience as I like, y’know?

The worst part is that he is one of my close friends I am inviting to my birthday party T^T. And he's AroAce, so him being a part of the queer comunity makes it so much worse T^T

And yes, the love songs were all written about platonic love, actually I decided.

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

3 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

The worst part is that he is one of my close friends I am inviting to my birthday party T^T. And he's AroAce, so him being a part of the queer comunity makes it so much worse T^T

And yes, the love songs were all written about platonic love, actually I decided.

This is why I don’t typically touch the alloaro label (even tho I’m pretty sure that’s what I am), ‘cause that can bring a whole storm of questions and it’s awkward as hell to answer them usually

and my close friends are aroace or just ace so I can’t exactly talk about sensual attraction with them without it getting awkward

 

yessss

like, we aren’t given representation so we will make it

Also also, have you ever listened to Aromantic Moodboard by max lizanich?

Tis a vibe

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

3 minutes ago, Rynturning_Light said:

This is why I don’t typically touch the alloaro label (even tho I’m pretty sure that’s what I am), ‘cause that can bring a whole storm of questions and it’s awkward as hell to answer them usually

and my close friends are aroace or just ace so I can’t exactly talk about sensual attraction with them without it getting awkward

 

yessss

like, we aren’t given representation so we will make it

Also also, have you ever listened to Aromantic Moodboard by max lizanich?

Tis a vibe

Alloaro? Oh so just aro yeah I introduce myself as Aromantic and really really really hope they don't notice I specifically didn't say aroace. Cause then it gets really freaking awkward
Also isn't Sensual and Sexual attraction 2 different things? Sensual is physical touch, while Sexual is the ace one.

This representation was FORGED IN THE FIRES OF MORDOR
No, I should thou

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

1 minute ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Alloaro? Oh so just aro yeah I introduce myself as Aromantic and really really really hope they don't notice I specifically didn't say aroace. Cause then it gets really freaking awkward
Also isn't Sensual and Sexual attraction 2 different things? Sensual is physical touch, while Sexual is the ace one.

This representation was FORGED IN THE FIRES OF MORDOR
No, I should thou

Basically the technical term for someone who only experiences sexual attraction

allosexual is the opposite of asexual

I just say I’m aromantic tho and just leave it at that and if they pry then they pry and make it awkward

I’m pretty sure sensual and sexual attraction are relatively the same thing. Sensual can mean like sexy/sexual so

 

you should totally listen. It’s a vibe for us aromantics