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[Ascended Grubberfly He/Him]

18 minutes ago, Factor said:

It specifically said to do that in Alcatraz

That series has so many good suggestions.

 

16 minutes ago, Conure1243 said:

Yup!!

Though I've managed to numb my head to most pain now... so I decided it was probably healthier to stop.

I didn't even bonk that hard.

*bonks GG0z* See?

 Dude!!!!

 You just killed him!!!!!

[Factor She/Her]

"cause of death appears to be blunt force trauma to the head and we found this by the body" *holds up blood stained copy of WaT

[Conure1243 He/Him]

See this?

This is the reason I have a list of people I've accidentally killed.

Because it happens. A lot.

[Factor She/Her]

3 minutes ago, Ascended Grubberfly said:

That series has so many good suggestions.

 

 Dude!!!!

 You just killed him!!!!!

Yeah. Especially where he says that the proper way to read books to act out everything as you read it. * jumps into chasm attempts to lash self*

[Conure1243 He/Him]

Just now, Factor said:

Yeah. Especially where he says that the proper way to read books to act out everything as you read it. * jumps into chasm attempts to lash self*

RIP Fax.

Also RIP Fax, who uses that anymore?

[Factor She/Her]

1 minute ago, Conure1243 said:

See this?

This is the reason I have a list of people I've accidentally killed.

Because it happens. A lot.

Oh yeah! *Imaginary rap because watch*Imaginary rap because watch.*

Just now, Conure1243 said:

RIP Fax.

Also RIP Fax, who uses that anymore?

I have been rendered obsolete it seems.

[Conure1243 He/Him]

Just now, Factor said:

Oh yeah! *Imaginary rap because watch*Imaginary rap because watch.*

I have been rendered obsolete it seems.

Don't worry, Fax came into existence first!

[Factor She/Her]

Though it kind of sounds like a cool concept.

Just now, Conure1243 said:

Don't worry, Fax came into existence first!

… Wait which one are you saying you came first?

[Aeoryi she/her]

What does my steam game collection say about me

Spoiler

 

[Ascended Grubberfly He/Him]

7 minutes ago, Factor said:

"cause of death appears to be blunt force trauma to the head and we found this by the body" *holds up blood stained copy of WaT

“WaT a waste” said the officer “that’s a perfectly good book, now Ruined.”

@Aeoryi I see silksong and nine sols, there is nothing wrong with this.

Except you don’t have Hollow Knight, but Silksong is still a really good game. I love the fleas!

Edited Tuesday at 11:47 PM by Ascended Grubberfly

[Conure1243 He/Him]

1 minute ago, Aeoryi said:

What does my steam game collection say about me

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Hard to say, though a lot of the games on the side are pretty cool, from what I've seen about them

2 minutes ago, Factor said:

Though it kind of sounds like a cool concept.

… Wait which one are you saying you came first?

Yup!

[Aeoryi she/her]

10 minutes ago, Ascended Grubberfly said:

“WaT a waste” said the officer “that’s a perfectly good book, now Ruined.”

@Aeoryi I see silksong and nine sols, there is nothing wrong with this.

Except you don’t have Hollow Knight, but Silksong is still a really good game. I love the fleas!

I'm missing many fleas 

[Conure1243 He/Him]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

I'm missing many fleas 

*flashbacks*

Fleas...

I have a love/hate relationship with the fleas

[Ascended Grubberfly He/Him]

Just now, Conure1243 said:

*flashbacks*

Fleas...

I have a love/hate relationship with the fleas

Awooo!

Mamashka!

I love the little critters in the HK games.

[Aeoryi she/her]

3 minutes ago, Conure1243 said:

*flashbacks*

Fleas...

I have a love/hate relationship with the fleas

I don't like that

[Conure1243 He/Him]

3 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I don't like that

I don't like a lot of the things I say...

Mostly the irl stuff, but still

I think I go too far with the things I've said here sometimes

[Aeoryi she/her]

8 minutes ago, Conure1243 said:

I don't like a lot of the things I say...

Mostly the irl stuff, but still

I think I go too far with the things I've said here sometimes

we all do sometimes

[Factor She/Her]

3 hours ago, Aeoryi said:

we all do sometimes

You really need to get paid for being our therapist.

[Aeoryi she/her]

22 minutes ago, Factor said:

You really need to get paid for being our therapist.

I'd never accept any payment, sweetie. 

But I find it funny how I'm the one who gives support here now

[Factor She/Her]

4 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I'd never accept any payment, sweetie. 

But I find it funny how I'm the one who gives support here now

Well, you deserve it. It's hard to deal with all the insanity here.

*grins* Yeah.

[Aeoryi she/her]

5 minutes ago, Factor said:

Well, you deserve it. It's hard to deal with all the insanity here.

*grins* Yeah.

I would never live knowing that I could've helped but didn't 

 

[Factor She/Her]

3 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I would never live knowing that I could've helped but didn't 

 

Wise words. *sticks in quote book*

Aaand that's probably the other part. My helping abilities consists of quoting other people's support and saying "I second that" You're good at it.

[Aeoryi she/her]

11 minutes ago, Factor said:

Wise words. *sticks in quote book*

Aaand that's probably the other part. My helping abilities consists of quoting other people's support and saying "I second that" You're good at it.

I mean if you want advice for how to support others I can help with that

[Factor She/Her]

3 minutes ago, Aeoryi said:

I mean if you want advice for how to support others I can help with that

...You're offering to support me in supporting others?

Someone needs to give you a degree in therapy/phychology/*goes on tangent about the names for degrees*

*continues being distracted*

It's okay. I'll figure it out. You deserve a break from being a unpaid therapist/counseler/all the things.

 

ughhhhh this computers noninterfering autocorrect is so annoying *tangent*

 

Anyways, need to sleep now. Goodnight!

[Aeoryi she/her]

44 minutes ago, Factor said:

...You're offering to support me in supporting others?

Someone needs to give you a degree in therapy/phychology/*goes on tangent about the names for degrees*

*continues being distracted*

It's okay. I'll figure it out. You deserve a break from being a unpaid therapist/counseler/all the things.

 

ughhhhh this computers noninterfering autocorrect is so annoying *tangent*

 

Anyways, need to sleep now. Goodnight!

The most difficult part is spotting when to support someone. Some people have very direct social cues, others more indirect. But that's a skill I can't teach. 

There are, from my model of understanding, three main kinds of support you can give: advice, affirmation, and absence. Determining which one to use is very much situational, but I'm sure you'll figure it out one day. You can give multiple at once, or none. Once again, depends greatly on the situation.

Starting with the easiest one, absence. Sometimes a person will need you simply not to be there, and that is the best thing you can do to support them. Silence helps some people better than words, especially if they're unlikely to listen anyways. Remember this is always an option.

Option two is to affirm them, give them motivation, or words that don't expand their knowledge but rather lift their spirit, reinvigorate them and make them have more faith in themselves or others. Things like seconding what someone else says is a good example. You're affirming what the first person said and showing that you believe in it, offering support to that initial statement. 

Option three is advice. This is the hardest one to give, because it requires authority in the relevant topic, but it can also be immensely helpful too. This is in fact, what I am doing right now. By expanding your learning, your knowledge, I am supporting your ability to give support. (I'm so meta even this acronym) 

But in all honesty like a lot of understanding how to use this comes from experience, which I have unfortunate possession of. Experience involves both success and failure. Over time, you will learn things that work and things that don't work, and you will pivot from there. I believe you will.

(Also I get breaks all the time; whenever I need one I just step away from the shard for a bit)