Mental health club!

[Through the Living Hope]

42 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

. . .

yeah . . .

thank you

*hugs tightly*

aw man . . .

*hug*

*squeeze*

You can do this! It'll be done soon

*squeeze*

Honestly that last paragraph is the same for me (minus the counseling)

she doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to her and she's just like "oh you can talk to me about anything" but then whenever I go to talk to her about how she's treating me she just goes "well everyone makes mistakes" and turns it around on me for being a selfish child for not just taking everything she says and does to me

*squeeeeeeeeeeeeeze*

 

 

On the plus side today, I have some good news. My dad bought me a soda and it was really yummy 

*hugs tighter*

Oooh what kind of soda?

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

43 minutes ago, Spark of Hope said:

*hugs tighter*

Oooh what kind of soda?

Mug's

Very good

[Through the Living Hope]

5 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Mug's

Very good

Nummy

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

5 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

I just want to stop living on the edge of disaster

 it’s fraying my nerves and knotting all my insides and it feels like theres so so much pressure on my chest 

I almost want to just stop trying and let everything explode and ruin my future so that maybe I can have some peace and quiet under a nice bridge somewhere 

I’m tapped out

i can’t anymore 

*huuugs*

I know you can do this, okay? If there's anyone I would trust with this, it's you. 

 

3 hours ago, Hawks said:

Let's play a game

Reasons why I wanan live with my dad part two:

Fact-i don't like going to the temple with small groups.

Fact- me and my mom don't really like the same things and I try to hang out with her snd do stuff she likes but she doesn't like it. 

Now that those are out of the way

I denied going to the temple with her bc it was the weekend my dad was moving out (next weekend) and then eventually I said I didn't wanna go. Later when talking she says "I'm just trying to hang out with you" then walks away i call out "there are more ways to hang out then going to the temple" "yeah but you don't do any."

WHAT THE HELL?! i do. I will try. Ok so i don't drive in your car home from games (bc i wanna talk sports and you don't know anymore and my dad does) ok so i don't go shopping with you all that much (bc it requires going out and alot of times when you do I'm already overwhelmed.) But theres stuff o do. I watch TV shows with you every night. I sit and watch a few romance movies even tho I don't like them. We play games together whenever we sit in the round chair and we laugh alot. But that's apparently not enough. That's how I hang out. At home. Calmly. Or occasionally at the mall. Doing board games or card games. Makeing jokes and talking. Not shopping or going to the temple? I try my best to do what she likes. Even if i hate it. She does to but sometimes it feels like I'm putting in more effort to do stuff she likes then vise versa. And whenever I try to initiate something I think she will like she isn't interested. I try to find stuff that's mix. Like an action romance movie but she doesn't watch it. 

If i say anything about it I'm worried she'll say the oh your just not accepting I'm changing. I AM but it's not easy to get over 13 years of trauma. My bad let me forget how you would scream at me for every mistake. Ill forget how you were so busy yelling at my brother you didn't notife I WAS SUICIDAL! Let me forgive you for making me feel so worthlwss it took all of my friends to be able to keep me ALIVE! And I'm still not recovered from that. My self confidence is zero and my self worth is still struggling. I'm trying my best to get over it but yiur advice of 'oh just talk about it in counseling' THE HELL DO YOU THINK I DO!? I'm trying and trying but it takes ALOT of TIME

thanks for listening. *sigh* 

 

3 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well this just happened. I just forcibly came out to my dad as trans. 

Ok we are in the car he says he wants to talk about something. He goes maybe it's a coincidence about the binder and haircut. And maybe you think your trans..... so I panic. Then I'm lkke ok so i wanna go hy he they it makes me feel comfortable. Since i have I've felt more like me then I have my entire life. Dad talks about studies with trans suicide rates. I sadly didn't bring up a point I think l about that. And then he says he won't be addressing me as he and sticking with my other birth gender but if I wanna do that at school i do it at school. It's kinda freeing but also stressful cause he migjt blab to my mom and I am scared. He said tho he might not agree he still accepts me because I'm his kid. I dunno I just want advice. 

*sigj*

*melts into hug*

*huugs for you too*

I'm so sorry your mother is like that 

Glad you could talk with your father at least

Hoid Slayer is right it's a big step forward

And hey as time goes by he might even get around to call you he someday

Edited April 19, 2025 by Just A Silvereye
Shard threw a fit so the message was written twice

[Existential]

3 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well this just happened. I just forcibly came out to my dad as trans. 

Ok we are in the car he says he wants to talk about something. He goes maybe it's a coincidence about the binder and haircut. And maybe you think your trans..... so I panic. Then I'm lkke ok so i wanna go hy he they it makes me feel comfortable. Since i have I've felt more like me then I have my entire life. Dad talks about studies with trans suicide rates. I sadly didn't bring up a point I think l about that. And then he says he won't be addressing me as he and sticking with my other birth gender but if I wanna do that at school i do it at school. It's kinda freeing but also stressful cause he migjt blab to my mom and I am scared. He said tho he might not agree he still accepts me because I'm his kid. I dunno I just want advice. 

*sigj*

*melts into hug*

Hugz

[Keke They/he]

1 hour ago, Through The Living Glass said:

. . .

yeah . . .

thank you

*hugs tightly*

aw man . . .

*hug*

*squeeze*

You can do this! It'll be done soon

*squeeze*

Honestly that last paragraph is the same for me (minus the counseling)

she doesn't understand why I don't want to talk to her and she's just like "oh you can talk to me about anything" but then whenever I go to talk to her about how she's treating me she just goes "well everyone makes mistakes" and turns it around on me for being a selfish child for not just taking everything she says and does to me

*squeeeeeeeeeeeeeze*

 

 

On the plus side today, I have some good news. My dad bought me a soda and it was really yummy 

Thanks ily *hugs*

1 hour ago, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs*

That’s rough, but at least now you’ve got it out of the way. Even if it’s stressful, it’s a step forward. An important one.

*hugs as well*

Honestly, your stance here makes a lot of sense. You shouldn’t have to feel that way around her, and you definitely deserve better.

Just remember that your worth is not tied to her. You’re awesome, regardless of whether or not she sees that. We do. And we’re here for you. Every step of the way.

Thanks hs.

1 hour ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Oh my gosh I missed this!

*squeeze*

oh hawks

I don't know how to help, but I hope everything goes well

*squeeeeeeeeze*

*hugs*

1 hour ago, Bird Furious said:

*hugs very tight *

*hugs*

3 minutes ago, Just A Silvereye said:

*huuugs*

I know you can do this, okay? If there's anyone I would trust with this, it's you. 

 

 

*huugs for you too*

I'm so sorry your mother is like that 

Glad you could talk with your father at least

Hoid Slayer is right it's a big step forward

And hey as time goes by he might even get around to call you he someday

Yeah *hugs*

3 minutes ago, Dabi said:

Hugz

Hugs 

 

Tbh it felt awesome. I went and am at my friends house rn and we chatted snd she is a blessing. She gave me stickers and ducks and we just vibe. She also wanted to get me flags so she bought be a trans and aroace flag

We are watching Sam and Colby and I'm wrapped a pentacle (the opposite of a pentagram. It protects you) and two crosses while watching them explore goatman bridge. Idk if I belive in this but either way I'm not getting killed gang. XD but it's funny and entertaining so whatever

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

42 minutes ago, Spark of Hope said:

Nummy

 

24 minutes ago, Hawks said:

Thanks ily *hugs*

Thanks hs.

*hugs*

*hugs*

Yeah *hugs*

Hugs 

 

Tbh it felt awesome. I went and am at my friends house rn and we chatted snd she is a blessing. She gave me stickers and ducks and we just vibe. She also wanted to get me flags so she bought be a trans and aroace flag

We are watching Sam and Colby and I'm wrapped a pentacle (the opposite of a pentagram. It protects you) and two crosses while watching them explore goatman bridge. Idk if I belive in this but either way I'm not getting killed gang. XD but it's funny and entertaining so whatever

*squeeze*

Ly too, my dude

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that's so fun!

heheh

[Keke They/he]

6 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

 

*squeeze*

Ly too, my dude

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that's so fun!

heheh

It's terrifying but also entertaining.

The episode we arr watching is one of the scariest other then the conjuring ones. 

Strangly like it tho

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

39 minutes ago, Hawks said:

It's terrifying but also entertaining.

The episode we arr watching is one of the scariest other then the conjuring ones. 

Strangly like it tho

Cool :PP

[MirkerLurker she/her]

On 4/17/2025 at 11:21 PM, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Exactly

I love that you just embrace that 

On 4/17/2025 at 11:24 PM, Through The Living Glass said:

I'm not a huge dog person.

I want either an octopus, a stoat, or an African Grey parrot

African Greys are AMAZING but also terrifying because they're so smart and social that they can get diagnosable depression if you don't take care of them well, and I'd be terrified that it wouldn't thrive with me.
(Not that other animals don't also get depressed and excited and have emotions and need good care - but that Greys need a lot of specific and thoughtful care. And also live really long lives. They're a lifetime companion.)
Octopi: Also really smart, funny, and would be a super fun pet.
Stoats: Don't know how they do as pets

On 4/18/2025 at 12:12 AM, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs*

*gasps in offended*

Dogs are AWESOME

Like, how can you dispute with that bundle of raw cuteness?

Ferrets also seem nice, but I’ve never actually had one so can’t judge.

Haha I'm mostly arguing for the sake of arguing. I like animals, period. Dogs are adorable and I love them too.

Ferrets are amazing!! I took care of my friend's ferret while she studied abroad, and oh my gosh she was so much fun. Her name was Molly, and she loved to burrow in things and run around playing fetch and tag and tug of war, and she adored the sock drawer a little too much, and she LOVED squeaky toys. If she was out in the house and I couldn't find her, all I needed to do was call her name and squeak a toy, and there would be a sudden *rustle rustle skitter* followed by her little head popping up, and then she'd bounce superfast over to me. And the way they move is so cute! *boing boing*

On 4/18/2025 at 12:38 AM, Hoid Slayer said:

*grapples*

*downs vial of liquid investiture*

*lashes Szeth to the sky*

*duralumin-boosts lash because why not*

*wait is there any way to actually do that?*

*maybe with some weird hemallurgy and connection shenanigans*

*new fan theory? *

On 4/18/2025 at 12:40 AM, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

I feel like that would be so overpowered if it were possible, but I think you’d need a world with the influences of Preservation and Honor

Pretty sure it's doable - you'd need to have both sets of Investiture and the correct trigger/fuel to use each of them, so Stormlight and duralumin respectively. But we know you can use offworld Investiture on other planets as long as you have your fuel (or Dor). So...Hoid is the one to look at, with his multitude of collected Investitures.

 

On 4/18/2025 at 2:18 AM, Mag said:

My anxiety is really really bad tonight and I can't sleep

I don't know what to do haha

*hugs*

For future cases: Do you know any calming techniques? If you look up panic attack grounding techniques, there are methods you can use to help yourself calm down. Those, and the principles behind them, are useful even when you're not in a full-blown panic attack, but just "everyday" anxiety.

My favorite is 5-4-3-2-1 grounding: You focus on physical sensations. First, list 5 things you can see. Then 4 things you can touch/feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste.
For each thing you list, take a moment to really experience it - don't just list "blanket, chair, floor, book, box" for sight, for example, but rather "blanket - blue, white flowers, looks fuzzy. Chair: green, lumpy, worn at the edge. Floor: tan, wood texture, grain is uneven." Etc. Same with all the sensations.

The same principle can be applied less rigorously, in what's called "mindfulness". Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on your physical sensations to help ground your thoughts and help you be present where you are instead of caught up in your head/thoughts. Similar to 54321, you focus on physical sensations - though you don't need to do it in a strict list. I actually prefer to close my eyes when starting mindfulness, as it helps me calm and focus. Feel my shirt on my shoulders; feel the air moving in my lungs; hear the inhale and exhale; feel the book in my hands, its smooth cover and rough page edges. This helps pull you out of your head for a moment; not permanently, but for enough of a pause to help you feel more in control, and sometimes to let you identify your emotions or their causes more clearly. You don't need to be in a calm quiet space to do this either; it might be harder in an overwhelming location (too much noise, people, etc), but it's useful for helping overstimulation too; instead of fighting the sensations, let them wash over you; hear them, feel them, and let them be. 

There's other things too, but those are the two I use most often, because my anxiety usually stems from overstimulation of some kind - whether external, or internal (thoughts just won't stop).

 

On 4/18/2025 at 3:28 PM, Wierdo said:

*spin*

*twirl*

 

On 4/18/2025 at 5:09 PM, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

Hello everyone if you were sad today I have some dogs that want you to feel better

DOGGOS!
ohmygosh that's a boston terrier! 

 

On 4/18/2025 at 9:02 PM, Hawks said:

mom: hwy dont you wanna live wiht me

also her:yells at me for the samllest thing until i almsot snap meanwhile my friends on the call are baffled 

no wonder why i wanna live with dad?

9 hours ago, Hawks said:

Let's play a game

Reasons why I wanan live with my dad part two:

Fact-i don't like going to the temple with small groups.

Fact- me and my mom don't really like the same things and I try to hang out with her snd do stuff she likes but she doesn't like it. 

Now that those are out of the way

I denied going to the temple with her bc it was the weekend my dad was moving out (next weekend) and then eventually I said I didn't wanna go. Later when talking she says "I'm just trying to hang out with you" then walks away i call out "there are more ways to hang out then going to the temple" "yeah but you don't do any."

WHAT THE HELL?! i do. I will try. Ok so i don't drive in your car home from games (bc i wanna talk sports and you don't know anymore and my dad does) ok so i don't go shopping with you all that much (bc it requires going out and alot of times when you do I'm already overwhelmed.) But theres stuff o do. I watch TV shows with you every night. I sit and watch a few romance movies even tho I don't like them. We play games together whenever we sit in the round chair and we laugh alot. But that's apparently not enough. That's how I hang out. At home. Calmly. Or occasionally at the mall. Doing board games or card games. Makeing jokes and talking. Not shopping or going to the temple? I try my best to do what she likes. Even if i hate it. She does to but sometimes it feels like I'm putting in more effort to do stuff she likes then vise versa. And whenever I try to initiate something I think she will like she isn't interested. I try to find stuff that's mix. Like an action romance movie but she doesn't watch it. 

If i say anything about it I'm worried she'll say the oh your just not accepting I'm changing. I AM but it's not easy to get over 13 years of trauma. My bad let me forget how you would scream at me for every mistake. Ill forget how you were so busy yelling at my brother you didn't notife I WAS SUICIDAL! Let me forgive you for making me feel so worthlwss it took all of my friends to be able to keep me ALIVE! And I'm still not recovered from that. My self confidence is zero and my self worth is still struggling. I'm trying my best to get over it but yiur advice of 'oh just talk about it in counseling' THE HELL DO YOU THINK I DO!? I'm trying and trying but it takes ALOT of TIME

thanks for listening. *sigh* 

*hug*

 

12 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Mentally I'm pretty decent, I'm just sick with a sore throat/cold. And because I'm sick I'm now behind on a Chem project that's worth 10% of my grade xD

Oh no, not you too! I just made a big batch of gollum juice for my household, as half of us here are sick. Not me...yet...but it's probably only a matter of time. You have my sympathy on the chem project. Hope you get better soon and get caught up!

(Gollum juice, btw, is what Andy Serkis drank throughout the filming of LotR in order to keep his voice going while talking like Gollum so much, which was really rough on his throat. It's really simple - equal parts honey and lemon juice, toss in some fresh chopped ginger [a healthy amount, no need to peel first], and then simmer on the stove for...oh, till it's fragrant? half an hour to an hour, depending on how strong you want the ginger burn to be. taste and decide when it's done. Stir regularly for the first few minutes until the honey has properly melted into the lemon juice. It's absolutely lovely on a sore throat when taken straight, or can be watered down with hot water to make a 'tea' of sorts. Take hot or cold. Or room temp - however you like. The honey soothes the throat, the lemon juice has lots of vitamin C to boost the immune system, and the ginger helps with any nausea. It's my go-to sick drink.)

 

10 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

I just want to stop living on the edge of disaster

 it’s fraying my nerves and knotting all my insides and it feels like theres so so much pressure on my chest 

I almost want to just stop trying and let everything explode and ruin my future so that maybe I can have some peace and quiet under a nice bridge somewhere 

I’m tapped out

i can’t anymore 

It's ok to stop. 

Rather than exploding, it's ok to just let it go. Put it down. Exploding is what happens if you keep putting pressure, and keep forcing things. It's better to put things down by choice, deliberately. And it's ok to do that. It's ok to acknowledge "I can't keep this up right now."

And your future is important, but you right now are more important. Here and now, you matter.
Your future only matters if you make it there.

I don't know what "stopping" would look like for you. If you meant "stop living", then no - not that. But it sounds like you mean "stop trying to meet expectations" or something like that. So: grades are not the be-all end-all of the world. Nor are extracurriculars; nor any of the other "important for your future" things.

Your future will look different if you stop prioritizing it. So will your present. And that's ok; it's kind of the point, actually. 

Yes, you might face challenges in your future if you don't get good grades in high school.
You're facing other challenges right now. They aren't less important challenges. Just different ones.
And all of those things have solutions. Failing grades don't end your future. They change it, but there are still paths forward.

(I'm using grades as an example because that's the typical "you'll ruin your future if!" thing, but this applies to lots of other things. Even relationships; it's ok to tell people "I'm overwhelmed and need a break.")

 

8 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well this just happened. I just forcibly came out to my dad as trans. 

Ok we are in the car he says he wants to talk about something. He goes maybe it's a coincidence about the binder and haircut. And maybe you think your trans..... so I panic. Then I'm lkke ok so i wanna go hy he they it makes me feel comfortable. Since i have I've felt more like me then I have my entire life. Dad talks about studies with trans suicide rates. I sadly didn't bring up a point I think l about that. And then he says he won't be addressing me as he and sticking with my other birth gender but if I wanna do that at school i do it at school. It's kinda freeing but also stressful cause he migjt blab to my mom and I am scared. He said tho he might not agree he still accepts me because I'm his kid. I dunno I just want advice. 

Well, that could have gone a lot worse. I definitely see how that's stressful. And how you're worried he might tell your mom. But I also want to celebrate that it didn't explode, because I've seen and heard those stories, and I'm glad he still loves you and accepts you.
*hugs*

 

[Keke They/he]

Just now, MirkerLurker said:

I love that you just embrace that 

African Greys are AMAZING but also terrifying because they're so smart and social that they can get diagnosable depression if you don't take care of them well, and I'd be terrified that it wouldn't thrive with me.
(Not that other animals don't also get depressed and excited and have emotions and need good care - but that Greys need a lot of specific and thoughtful care. And also live really long lives. They're a lifetime companion.)
Octopi: Also really smart, funny, and would be a super fun pet.
Stoats: Don't know how they do as pets

Haha I'm mostly arguing for the sake of arguing. I like animals, period. Dogs are adorable and I love them too.

Ferrets are amazing!! I took care of my friend's ferret while she studied abroad, and oh my gosh she was so much fun. Her name was Molly, and she loved to burrow in things and run around playing fetch and tag and tug of war, and she adored the sock drawer a little too much, and she LOVED squeaky toys. If she was out in the house and I couldn't find her, all I needed to do was call her name and squeak a toy, and there would be a sudden *rustle rustle skitter* followed by her little head popping up, and then she'd bounce superfast over to me. And the way they move is so cute! *boing boing*

Pretty sure it's doable - you'd need to have both sets of Investiture and the correct trigger/fuel to use each of them, so Stormlight and duralumin respectively. But we know you can use offworld Investiture on other planets as long as you have your fuel (or Dor). So...Hoid is the one to look at, with his multitude of collected Investitures.

 

*hugs*

For future cases: Do you know any calming techniques? If you look up panic attack grounding techniques, there are methods you can use to help yourself calm down. Those, and the principles behind them, are useful even when you're not in a full-blown panic attack, but just "everyday" anxiety.

My favorite is 5-4-3-2-1 grounding: You focus on physical sensations. First, list 5 things you can see. Then 4 things you can touch/feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste.
For each thing you list, take a moment to really experience it - don't just list "blanket, chair, floor, book, box" for sight, for example, but rather "blanket - blue, white flowers, looks fuzzy. Chair: green, lumpy, worn at the edge. Floor: tan, wood texture, grain is uneven." Etc. Same with all the sensations.

The same principle can be applied less rigorously, in what's called "mindfulness". Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on your physical sensations to help ground your thoughts and help you be present where you are instead of caught up in your head/thoughts. Similar to 54321, you focus on physical sensations - though you don't need to do it in a strict list. I actually prefer to close my eyes when starting mindfulness, as it helps me calm and focus. Feel my shirt on my shoulders; feel the air moving in my lungs; hear the inhale and exhale; feel the book in my hands, its smooth cover and rough page edges. This helps pull you out of your head for a moment; not permanently, but for enough of a pause to help you feel more in control, and sometimes to let you identify your emotions or their causes more clearly. You don't need to be in a calm quiet space to do this either; it might be harder in an overwhelming location (too much noise, people, etc), but it's useful for helping overstimulation too; instead of fighting the sensations, let them wash over you; hear them, feel them, and let them be. 

There's other things too, but those are the two I use most often, because my anxiety usually stems from overstimulation of some kind - whether external, or internal (thoughts just won't stop).

 

*twirl*

 

DOGGOS!
ohmygosh that's a boston terrier! 

 

*hug*

 

Oh no, not you too! I just made a big batch of gollum juice for my household, as half of us here are sick. Not me...yet...but it's probably only a matter of time. You have my sympathy on the chem project. Hope you get better soon and get caught up!

(Gollum juice, btw, is what Andy Serkis drank throughout the filming of LotR in order to keep his voice going while talking like Gollum so much, which was really rough on his throat. It's really simple - equal parts honey and lemon juice, toss in some fresh chopped ginger [a healthy amount, no need to peel first], and then simmer on the stove for...oh, till it's fragrant? half an hour to an hour, depending on how strong you want the ginger burn to be. taste and decide when it's done. Stir regularly for the first few minutes until the honey has properly melted into the lemon juice. It's absolutely lovely on a sore throat when taken straight, or can be watered down with hot water to make a 'tea' of sorts. Take hot or cold. Or room temp - however you like. The honey soothes the throat, the lemon juice has lots of vitamin C to boost the immune system, and the ginger helps with any nausea. It's my go-to sick drink.)

 

It's ok to stop. 

Rather than exploding, it's ok to just let it go. Put it down. Exploding is what happens if you keep putting pressure, and keep forcing things. It's better to put things down by choice, deliberately. And it's ok to do that. It's ok to acknowledge "I can't keep this up right now."

And your future is important, but you right now are more important. Here and now, you matter.
Your future only matters if you make it there.

I don't know what "stopping" would look like for you. If you meant "stop living", then no - not that. But it sounds like you mean "stop trying to meet expectations" or something like that. So: grades are not the be-all end-all of the world. Nor are extracurriculars; nor any of the other "important for your future" things.

Your future will look different if you stop prioritizing it. So will your present. And that's ok; it's kind of the point, actually. 

Yes, you might face challenges in your future if you don't get good grades in high school.
You're facing other challenges right now. They aren't less important challenges. Just different ones.
And all of those things have solutions. Failing grades don't end your future. They change it, but there are still paths forward.

(I'm using grades as an example because that's the typical "you'll ruin your future if!" thing, but this applies to lots of other things. Even relationships; it's ok to tell people "I'm overwhelmed and need a break.")

 

Well, that could have gone a lot worse. I definitely see how that's stressful. And how you're worried he might tell your mom. But I also want to celebrate that it didn't explode, because I've seen and heard those stories, and I'm glad he still loves you and accepts you.
*hugs*

 

*hugs* yeah tbh that's why i was worried to tell him. Internet stories go crazy

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

3 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

African Greys are AMAZING but also terrifying because they're so smart and social that they can get diagnosable depression if you don't take care of them well, and I'd be terrified that it wouldn't thrive with me.
(Not that other animals don't also get depressed and excited and have emotions and need good care - but that Greys need a lot of specific and thoughtful care. And also live really long lives. They're a lifetime companion.)
Octopi: Also really smart, funny, and would be a super fun pet.
Stoats: Don't know how they do as pets

I knowwwww I want a pet that lives as long as I doooooooo

*hugs btw*

4 minutes ago, Hawks said:

*hugs* yeah tbh that's why i was worried to tell him. Internet stories go crazy

that's for sure

[MirkerLurker she/her]

3 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

I knowwwww I want a pet that lives as long as I doooooooo

Then a Grey is a Greyt pet for you! 
Eh? Eh? Eyyyy~
...I'll just show myself out now.

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, MirkerLurker said:

Then a Grey is a Greyt pet for you! 
Eh? Eh? Eyyyy~
...I'll just show myself out now.

Ha!

No, that was a good joke! One might say it was a greyt one! 

*pulls back in*

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

12 hours ago, Bird Furious said:

I just want to stop living on the edge of disaster

 it’s fraying my nerves and knotting all my insides and it feels like theres so so much pressure on my chest 

I almost want to just stop trying and let everything explode and ruin my future so that maybe I can have some peace and quiet under a nice bridge somewhere 

I’m tapped out

i can’t anymore 

*hug*

10 hours ago, Hawks said:

Let's play a game

Reasons why I wanan live with my dad part two:

Fact-i don't like going to the temple with small groups.

Fact- me and my mom don't really like the same things and I try to hang out with her snd do stuff she likes but she doesn't like it. 

Now that those are out of the way

I denied going to the temple with her bc it was the weekend my dad was moving out (next weekend) and then eventually I said I didn't wanna go. Later when talking she says "I'm just trying to hang out with you" then walks away i call out "there are more ways to hang out then going to the temple" "yeah but you don't do any."

WHAT THE HELL?! i do. I will try. Ok so i don't drive in your car home from games (bc i wanna talk sports and you don't know anymore and my dad does) ok so i don't go shopping with you all that much (bc it requires going out and alot of times when you do I'm already overwhelmed.) But theres stuff o do. I watch TV shows with you every night. I sit and watch a few romance movies even tho I don't like them. We play games together whenever we sit in the round chair and we laugh alot. But that's apparently not enough. That's how I hang out. At home. Calmly. Or occasionally at the mall. Doing board games or card games. Makeing jokes and talking. Not shopping or going to the temple? I try my best to do what she likes. Even if i hate it. She does to but sometimes it feels like I'm putting in more effort to do stuff she likes then vise versa. And whenever I try to initiate something I think she will like she isn't interested. I try to find stuff that's mix. Like an action romance movie but she doesn't watch it. 

If i say anything about it I'm worried she'll say the oh your just not accepting I'm changing. I AM but it's not easy to get over 13 years of trauma. My bad let me forget how you would scream at me for every mistake. Ill forget how you were so busy yelling at my brother you didn't notife I WAS SUICIDAL! Let me forgive you for making me feel so worthlwss it took all of my friends to be able to keep me ALIVE! And I'm still not recovered from that. My self confidence is zero and my self worth is still struggling. I'm trying my best to get over it but yiur advice of 'oh just talk about it in counseling' THE HELL DO YOU THINK I DO!? I'm trying and trying but it takes ALOT of TIME

thanks for listening. *sigh* 

*hug*

10 hours ago, Hawks said:

Well this just happened. I just forcibly came out to my dad as trans. 

Ok we are in the car he says he wants to talk about something. He goes maybe it's a coincidence about the binder and haircut. And maybe you think your trans..... so I panic. Then I'm lkke ok so i wanna go hy he they it makes me feel comfortable. Since i have I've felt more like me then I have my entire life. Dad talks about studies with trans suicide rates. I sadly didn't bring up a point I think l about that. And then he says he won't be addressing me as he and sticking with my other birth gender but if I wanna do that at school i do it at school. It's kinda freeing but also stressful cause he migjt blab to my mom and I am scared. He said tho he might not agree he still accepts me because I'm his kid. I dunno I just want advice. 

*sigj*

*melts into hug*

*lots of hugs*

Progress! Progress is good! That’s at least one fairly good thing.

 

45 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Then a Grey is a Greyt pet for you! 
Eh? Eh? Eyyyy~
...I'll just show myself out now.

*slow clap*

[Keke They/he]

Just now, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*hug*

*hug*

*lots of hugs*

Progress! Progress is good! That’s at least one fairly good thing.

 

*slow clap*

*hugs*

I need to know if anyone else watches sam and Colby to understand how creepy their videos can get?!?!

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, Hawks said:

*hugs*

I need to know if anyone else watches sam and Colby to understand how creepy their videos can get?!?!

No…how creepy? In what way?

[Keke They/he]

Just now, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

No…how creepy? In what way?

Their ghost hunters who explore haunted places and talk to ghosts. XD

That should sum it up. 

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, Hawks said:

Their ghost hunters who explore haunted places and talk to ghosts. XD

That should sum it up. 

Oh. Yeah.

My house is definitely haunted. I like ghosts

[Keke They/he]

41 minutes ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

Oh. Yeah.

My house is definitely haunted. I like ghosts

Dude watch them omh they are hilarious. Dude the freaking one at the goatmans bridge scared the crap out of me that and the one at celinaspookyboo 

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[Mags she/they]

On 4/18/2025 at 12:26 AM, Dabi said:

*hug* feel that

I wish I could help but rn I can't seem to find the words

On 4/18/2025 at 7:17 AM, Hawks said:

*hug*

On 4/18/2025 at 7:27 AM, Hoid Slayer said:

*hugs*

We’re always here for you if you need anything

On 4/18/2025 at 8:23 AM, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*hug*

On 4/18/2025 at 11:21 AM, Through The Living Glass said:

*squeeze*

1 hour ago, MirkerLurker said:

I love that you just embrace that 

African Greys are AMAZING but also terrifying because they're so smart and social that they can get diagnosable depression if you don't take care of them well, and I'd be terrified that it wouldn't thrive with me.
(Not that other animals don't also get depressed and excited and have emotions and need good care - but that Greys need a lot of specific and thoughtful care. And also live really long lives. They're a lifetime companion.)
Octopi: Also really smart, funny, and would be a super fun pet.
Stoats: Don't know how they do as pets

Haha I'm mostly arguing for the sake of arguing. I like animals, period. Dogs are adorable and I love them too.

Ferrets are amazing!! I took care of my friend's ferret while she studied abroad, and oh my gosh she was so much fun. Her name was Molly, and she loved to burrow in things and run around playing fetch and tag and tug of war, and she adored the sock drawer a little too much, and she LOVED squeaky toys. If she was out in the house and I couldn't find her, all I needed to do was call her name and squeak a toy, and there would be a sudden *rustle rustle skitter* followed by her little head popping up, and then she'd bounce superfast over to me. And the way they move is so cute! *boing boing*

Pretty sure it's doable - you'd need to have both sets of Investiture and the correct trigger/fuel to use each of them, so Stormlight and duralumin respectively. But we know you can use offworld Investiture on other planets as long as you have your fuel (or Dor). So...Hoid is the one to look at, with his multitude of collected Investitures.

 

*hugs*

For future cases: Do you know any calming techniques? If you look up panic attack grounding techniques, there are methods you can use to help yourself calm down. Those, and the principles behind them, are useful even when you're not in a full-blown panic attack, but just "everyday" anxiety.

My favorite is 5-4-3-2-1 grounding: You focus on physical sensations. First, list 5 things you can see. Then 4 things you can touch/feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste.
For each thing you list, take a moment to really experience it - don't just list "blanket, chair, floor, book, box" for sight, for example, but rather "blanket - blue, white flowers, looks fuzzy. Chair: green, lumpy, worn at the edge. Floor: tan, wood texture, grain is uneven." Etc. Same with all the sensations.

The same principle can be applied less rigorously, in what's called "mindfulness". Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on your physical sensations to help ground your thoughts and help you be present where you are instead of caught up in your head/thoughts. Similar to 54321, you focus on physical sensations - though you don't need to do it in a strict list. I actually prefer to close my eyes when starting mindfulness, as it helps me calm and focus. Feel my shirt on my shoulders; feel the air moving in my lungs; hear the inhale and exhale; feel the book in my hands, its smooth cover and rough page edges. This helps pull you out of your head for a moment; not permanently, but for enough of a pause to help you feel more in control, and sometimes to let you identify your emotions or their causes more clearly. You don't need to be in a calm quiet space to do this either; it might be harder in an overwhelming location (too much noise, people, etc), but it's useful for helping overstimulation too; instead of fighting the sensations, let them wash over you; hear them, feel them, and let them be. 

There's other things too, but those are the two I use most often, because my anxiety usually stems from overstimulation of some kind - whether external, or internal (thoughts just won't stop).

 

*twirl*

 

DOGGOS!
ohmygosh that's a boston terrier! 

 

*hug*

 

Oh no, not you too! I just made a big batch of gollum juice for my household, as half of us here are sick. Not me...yet...but it's probably only a matter of time. You have my sympathy on the chem project. Hope you get better soon and get caught up!

(Gollum juice, btw, is what Andy Serkis drank throughout the filming of LotR in order to keep his voice going while talking like Gollum so much, which was really rough on his throat. It's really simple - equal parts honey and lemon juice, toss in some fresh chopped ginger [a healthy amount, no need to peel first], and then simmer on the stove for...oh, till it's fragrant? half an hour to an hour, depending on how strong you want the ginger burn to be. taste and decide when it's done. Stir regularly for the first few minutes until the honey has properly melted into the lemon juice. It's absolutely lovely on a sore throat when taken straight, or can be watered down with hot water to make a 'tea' of sorts. Take hot or cold. Or room temp - however you like. The honey soothes the throat, the lemon juice has lots of vitamin C to boost the immune system, and the ginger helps with any nausea. It's my go-to sick drink.)

 

It's ok to stop. 

Rather than exploding, it's ok to just let it go. Put it down. Exploding is what happens if you keep putting pressure, and keep forcing things. It's better to put things down by choice, deliberately. And it's ok to do that. It's ok to acknowledge "I can't keep this up right now."

And your future is important, but you right now are more important. Here and now, you matter.
Your future only matters if you make it there.

I don't know what "stopping" would look like for you. If you meant "stop living", then no - not that. But it sounds like you mean "stop trying to meet expectations" or something like that. So: grades are not the be-all end-all of the world. Nor are extracurriculars; nor any of the other "important for your future" things.

Your future will look different if you stop prioritizing it. So will your present. And that's ok; it's kind of the point, actually. 

Yes, you might face challenges in your future if you don't get good grades in high school.
You're facing other challenges right now. They aren't less important challenges. Just different ones.
And all of those things have solutions. Failing grades don't end your future. They change it, but there are still paths forward.

(I'm using grades as an example because that's the typical "you'll ruin your future if!" thing, but this applies to lots of other things. Even relationships; it's ok to tell people "I'm overwhelmed and need a break.")

 

Well, that could have gone a lot worse. I definitely see how that's stressful. And how you're worried he might tell your mom. But I also want to celebrate that it didn't explode, because I've seen and heard those stories, and I'm glad he still loves you and accepts you.
*hugs*

 

Thanks everyone! I'm luckily feeling much better today.

I have tried using those techniques, but to be honest I almost always forget . I prefer seeking more potent ways of distracting myself, because while trying to shift your focus is helpful, I live so much in my own head that shifting away from what I'm feeling without making a physical change to what I'm doing is less effective. That is to say, to calm myself down I usually try to focus on other things like a game, or show, etc.

I hope you are all doing alright as well! I got to see my sister who lives out of state today, which was super fun. I miss her a lot. 

Happy Easter to those who celebrate!

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, Mag said:

Thanks everyone! I'm luckily feeling much better today.

I have tried using those techniques, but to be honest I almost always forget . I prefer seeking more potent ways of distracting myself, because while trying to shift your focus is helpful, I live so much in my own head that shifting away from what I'm feeling without making a physical change to what I'm doing is less effective. That is to say, to calm myself down I usually try to focus on other things like a game, or show, etc.

I hope you are all doing alright as well! I got to see my sister who lives out of state today, which was super fun. I miss her a lot. 

Happy Easter to those who celebrate!

That's great!

Aww, fun!

Happy Easter!

[Through the Living Wrath he/him]

8 hours ago, Mag said:

Thanks everyone! I'm luckily feeling much better today.

I have tried using those techniques, but to be honest I almost always forget . I prefer seeking more potent ways of distracting myself, because while trying to shift your focus is helpful, I live so much in my own head that shifting away from what I'm feeling without making a physical change to what I'm doing is less effective. That is to say, to calm myself down I usually try to focus on other things like a game, or show, etc.

I hope you are all doing alright as well! I got to see my sister who lives out of state today, which was super fun. I miss her a lot. 

Happy Easter to those who celebrate!

*hug*

*whispers*
the best game to do that with is Elden ring - trust.

’appy Easter!

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 hours ago, MirkerLurker said:

I love that you just embrace that 

African Greys are AMAZING but also terrifying because they're so smart and social that they can get diagnosable depression if you don't take care of them well, and I'd be terrified that it wouldn't thrive with me.
(Not that other animals don't also get depressed and excited and have emotions and need good care - but that Greys need a lot of specific and thoughtful care. And also live really long lives. They're a lifetime companion.)
Octopi: Also really smart, funny, and would be a super fun pet.
Stoats: Don't know how they do as pets

Haha I'm mostly arguing for the sake of arguing. I like animals, period. Dogs are adorable and I love them too.

Ferrets are amazing!! I took care of my friend's ferret while she studied abroad, and oh my gosh she was so much fun. Her name was Molly, and she loved to burrow in things and run around playing fetch and tag and tug of war, and she adored the sock drawer a little too much, and she LOVED squeaky toys. If she was out in the house and I couldn't find her, all I needed to do was call her name and squeak a toy, and there would be a sudden *rustle rustle skitter* followed by her little head popping up, and then she'd bounce superfast over to me. And the way they move is so cute! *boing boing*

Pretty sure it's doable - you'd need to have both sets of Investiture and the correct trigger/fuel to use each of them, so Stormlight and duralumin respectively. But we know you can use offworld Investiture on other planets as long as you have your fuel (or Dor). So...Hoid is the one to look at, with his multitude of collected Investitures.

 

*hugs*

For future cases: Do you know any calming techniques? If you look up panic attack grounding techniques, there are methods you can use to help yourself calm down. Those, and the principles behind them, are useful even when you're not in a full-blown panic attack, but just "everyday" anxiety.

My favorite is 5-4-3-2-1 grounding: You focus on physical sensations. First, list 5 things you can see. Then 4 things you can touch/feel. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell. 1 thing you can taste.
For each thing you list, take a moment to really experience it - don't just list "blanket, chair, floor, book, box" for sight, for example, but rather "blanket - blue, white flowers, looks fuzzy. Chair: green, lumpy, worn at the edge. Floor: tan, wood texture, grain is uneven." Etc. Same with all the sensations.

The same principle can be applied less rigorously, in what's called "mindfulness". Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on your physical sensations to help ground your thoughts and help you be present where you are instead of caught up in your head/thoughts. Similar to 54321, you focus on physical sensations - though you don't need to do it in a strict list. I actually prefer to close my eyes when starting mindfulness, as it helps me calm and focus. Feel my shirt on my shoulders; feel the air moving in my lungs; hear the inhale and exhale; feel the book in my hands, its smooth cover and rough page edges. This helps pull you out of your head for a moment; not permanently, but for enough of a pause to help you feel more in control, and sometimes to let you identify your emotions or their causes more clearly. You don't need to be in a calm quiet space to do this either; it might be harder in an overwhelming location (too much noise, people, etc), but it's useful for helping overstimulation too; instead of fighting the sensations, let them wash over you; hear them, feel them, and let them be. 

There's other things too, but those are the two I use most often, because my anxiety usually stems from overstimulation of some kind - whether external, or internal (thoughts just won't stop).

 

*twirl*

 

DOGGOS!
ohmygosh that's a boston terrier! 

 

*hug*

 

Oh no, not you too! I just made a big batch of gollum juice for my household, as half of us here are sick. Not me...yet...but it's probably only a matter of time. You have my sympathy on the chem project. Hope you get better soon and get caught up!

(Gollum juice, btw, is what Andy Serkis drank throughout the filming of LotR in order to keep his voice going while talking like Gollum so much, which was really rough on his throat. It's really simple - equal parts honey and lemon juice, toss in some fresh chopped ginger [a healthy amount, no need to peel first], and then simmer on the stove for...oh, till it's fragrant? half an hour to an hour, depending on how strong you want the ginger burn to be. taste and decide when it's done. Stir regularly for the first few minutes until the honey has properly melted into the lemon juice. It's absolutely lovely on a sore throat when taken straight, or can be watered down with hot water to make a 'tea' of sorts. Take hot or cold. Or room temp - however you like. The honey soothes the throat, the lemon juice has lots of vitamin C to boost the immune system, and the ginger helps with any nausea. It's my go-to sick drink.)

 

It's ok to stop. 

Rather than exploding, it's ok to just let it go. Put it down. Exploding is what happens if you keep putting pressure, and keep forcing things. It's better to put things down by choice, deliberately. And it's ok to do that. It's ok to acknowledge "I can't keep this up right now."

And your future is important, but you right now are more important. Here and now, you matter.
Your future only matters if you make it there.

I don't know what "stopping" would look like for you. If you meant "stop living", then no - not that. But it sounds like you mean "stop trying to meet expectations" or something like that. So: grades are not the be-all end-all of the world. Nor are extracurriculars; nor any of the other "important for your future" things.

Your future will look different if you stop prioritizing it. So will your present. And that's ok; it's kind of the point, actually. 

Yes, you might face challenges in your future if you don't get good grades in high school.
You're facing other challenges right now. They aren't less important challenges. Just different ones.
And all of those things have solutions. Failing grades don't end your future. They change it, but there are still paths forward.

(I'm using grades as an example because that's the typical "you'll ruin your future if!" thing, but this applies to lots of other things. Even relationships; it's ok to tell people "I'm overwhelmed and need a break.")

 

Well, that could have gone a lot worse. I definitely see how that's stressful. And how you're worried he might tell your mom. But I also want to celebrate that it didn't explode, because I've seen and heard those stories, and I'm glad he still loves you and accepts you.
*hugs*

 

YES I LOVE MY BOSTON TERRIER HES NOT VERY INTELLIGENT THO HE RUNSE INTO WALLS SOMETIMES

10 minutes ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

YES I LOVE MY BOSTON TERRIER HES NOT VERY INTELLIGENT THO HE RUNSE INTO WALLS SOMETIMES

Oh also *massive hugs* Happy Easter to those who celebrate and if you don’t I hope you also have a great day

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Happy Easter!