Mental health club!

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Just now, Clinically insane said:

Wait... do.mm do you know?

no-

[Keke They/he]

Just now, Through The Living Glass said:

no-

Me and talnfan talked about this topic once....

*laughs*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

1 minute ago, Clinically insane said:

Me and talnfan talked about this topic once....

*laughs*

uh okay

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

2 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

Wait... do.mm do you know?

Let's not 

2 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

Ive got a friend who's a ... trombone player, ans they do the wah wah wahahahah thingie. ..

Race car noises are the most important part of any trombonist's repertoire, though way way wahh thingies are good too. 

3 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

I wish I had the lungs to play trombone

Well you get better thru practice, my lungs were Smol before I played for all of jr high/HS xD

1 minute ago, Clinically insane said:

Me and talnfan talked about this topic once....

I seem to recall you made a joke and I just sighed 

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

24 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

He's hilarious xD Back when he did his first Kickstarter (same time Brandon did his 4 secret projects one) he made a really funny intro video about it. 

 

Ayyy fellow trombonist

I play the euphonium, which is kinda like the trombone

9 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

Wait... do.mm do you know?

…

I don’t know if we’re thinking of the same thing or I’m just really dirty minded. I blame my friends

6 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

I seem to recall you made a joke and I just sighed

I can connect to this in a deep personal level

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

13 hours ago, The Sly Cookie said:

Imma be honest, I'm feeling pretty empty today. I just want someone to hold, someone who won't ask questions and just give unconditional love. I barely sleep these days. the past three days I've gotten three hours of sleep on average. I don't know why I feel empty, in fact I feel like I should be feeling better, and I was, for a time. Now I just feel like my whole mental state has been sucked dry.

I feel like people should expect me to be happier as well. I feel like I have a reputation to hold up. I go all the way to give a thank you message to all of the people who helped me out of my depression and now I'm back in the ditch. I am devoid of frustration however and I can't even feel angry, that's how empty I feel.

*major hugs*

10 hours ago, MirkerLurker said:

*Hug*
Can't take it away, but can give hugs. You're not a bad person, you're a struggling person. There's a difference. And you get hugs.

*Hug* for you too. I could add more words, but Shattered Cosmere gave such a great response, I don't think I need to add anything to it but hugs. *hug*

 

"I used to be an adventurer like you, until I took an arrow to the knee..." Arrow, stomp kick, roundhouse kick, they all can shatter a kneecap real nice, and leave the person with a full lifespan of constant pain and crippled gait.
Also:
"To the death!"
"No! To the pain."

Always prepare for multiple attackers! I see you favor the Ender strategy. It's a good one.
And YES, convincing them you're insane is SUCH a great tactic. Grinning maniacally as you lick their blood off your fingers works great too.

what, noooo! I wanted to join! I have great ideas about how to kill someone slowly, or even better NOT kill them but leave them forever altered and unable to go about life the same way!
Sad face. I like talking about fighting and murdering and carefully not murdering.

 

Trying to maintain a reputation that's not who you are at the moment will leave you feeling alone, because no one gets to see the real you, no one has the chance to learn and understand. It's blocking people from the opportunity to sit with you. You don't owe your friends happiness; and more importantly, when you force it, you actually deny them something they probably want - the opportunity to live real life with you, to hear how you're actually doing.
Not everyone will sit with you, or understand, I'm not saying broadcast it to the world; but if you don't show anyone, those who care about you won't get the opportunity to show you they care.
We here on this forum completely understand going from feeling better and thanking everyone, to finding yourself back down again. It's ok. 

Rather than "hug", I want to give you a kitten pile. Where we all pile up around and on top of you and give you contact and hugs, and sit quietly together, and let you rest, and maybe doze for a bit, surrounded by all of us. I'm pretty sure a bunch of us on here would join a hug pile. This thing:

Come on everybody - kitten pile on Cookie! It's good for the rest of us too. 

 

You are very obviously my kind of person

All you people and your fancy instruments. Little do you know that piano can cover all (actually nothing against other instruments, I just joke that piano is the best)

[Existential]

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

36 minutes ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

Not really, we're both in the same boat. I'm up until I crash most nights.

[Existential]

3 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Not really, we're both in the same boat. I'm up until I crash most nights.

dude fr

and I usually crash at 2 or 3 in the morning

then get up at 5 or 6 

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

6 hours ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

*hugs*

So I don't really know what makes you stay awake so late, but for me it was... like,  my brain refusing to stop. I would keep turning around for hours in bed thinking about stuff (often but not always related to my current issues) and eventually fall asleep only a couple hours before I had to wake up.

I've had better nights recently, but I am not entirely sure why. I feel that good nights are the ones where I can "switch off" that process and just let myself drift away. But I haven't found how to do that reliably. All I know is that melatonin helps usually, as well as a bit of reading just before bedtime, but even then it still doesn't work all the time. But it's something. 

Sorry if you have already been told that or tried it. 

Anyway *hugs again tight*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

14 hours ago, Spark of Hope said:

Lol

Yeah I play violin and trombone and I’m an amateur guitarist 

Nice I play violin and French horn no guitar but I’d like to learn some day

[Through the Living Hope]

1 hour ago, Just A Silvereye said:

*hugs*

So I don't really know what makes you stay awake so late, but for me it was... like,  my brain refusing to stop. I would keep turning around for hours in bed thinking about stuff (often but not always related to my current issues) and eventually fall asleep only a couple hours before I had to wake up.

I've had better nights recently, but I am not entirely sure why. I feel that good nights are the ones where I can "switch off" that process and just let myself drift away. But I haven't found how to do that reliably. All I know is that melatonin helps usually, as well as a bit of reading just before bedtime, but even then it still doesn't work all the time. But it's something. 

Sorry if you have already been told that or tried it. 

Anyway *hugs again tight*

Something my mom told me years ago is to make a grocery list alphabetically in your head. You’d start at A and name everything you can think of that starts with A that you can buy at a grocery store (think something more like a super or hypermarché than the smaller specialty shops for this). Like in English I would think “Apple, avocado, asparagus-“ and keep going until I ran out of A’s, then move to B and so on

22 minutes ago, Heřãłðøfľõvê said:

Nice I play violin and French horn no guitar but I’d like to learn some day

Hey! @Exotic Almond also plays horn!

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

8 hours ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

First of all, I'd highly recommend asking your doctor about it if you've been having that consistent of a sleep problem, for that long

As for tips, I'd recommend 

- Follow the 321 rule: No food 3 hrs before bed (at least not any big meals) , no exercise 2 hrs before, and no liquids an hour before 

- For the most part, any small amount of light can reset your internal clock by several hours, so try to limit light exposure leading up to bedtime, including phone/devices. I personally like to turn off all the lights (and my phone) and stretch 30 mins before bed, and that's helped me

[Keke They/he]

8 hours ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

No. But *hugs*

i dont sleep well either…..

so

29 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

First of all, I'd highly recommend asking your doctor about it if you've been having that consistent of a sleep problem, for that long

As for tips, I'd recommend 

- Follow the 321 rule: No food 3 hrs before bed (at least not any big meals) , no exercise 2 hrs before, and no liquids an hour before 

- For the most part, any small amount of light can reset your internal clock by several hours, so try to limit light exposure leading up to bedtime, including phone/devices. I personally like to turn off all the lights (and my phone) and stretch 30 mins before bed, and that's helped me

oh ok then…….

wait… does my nightlight count as a light?

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

5 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

wait… does my nightlight count as a light

Yes, though if the lack of a nightlight causes you distress/worry/etc., then I believe those feelings will keep you up more than the small amount of light will. So if you feel better sleeping with one, do so 

[MirkerLurker she/her]

9 hours ago, Kaladin Stormcursed said:

*major hugs*

You are very obviously my kind of person

All you people and your fancy instruments. Little do you know that piano can cover all (actually nothing against other instruments, I just joke that piano is the best)

You say "fancy" as if piano isn't a large heavy complicated instrument that's a) too big to carry around and thus needs its own set up area, and b) a string instrument with tons of strings needing individual tuning. My "fancy" french horn only has a handful of slides that need greasing and adjusting for tuning. Simple, quick, and I can carry it with me! (or I could, if I practiced with the thing anymore. I am very out of practice.)

Piano is pretty amazing though. It has a broad range of notes, the ability to play chords, and it's absolutely fantastic for teaching or learning music theory since you can see the relation of the notes to each other.

 

8 hours ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

Dang, you've tried a lot already, huh. I'm with Taln on this one - it sounds like you should check with your doctor, maybe get bloodwork done, and see if there's an underlying medical factor. Because all the things you listed are pretty much the spectrum of the various tricks for falling asleep. I'll back up what Taln said about limiting food/liquid, exercise, and screens/lights prior to trying to sleep - what he laid out has proved true in my personal experience. (I don't turn off all lights and stretch before bed like he does, but I might start doing that, actually, it sounds really helpful - a step up from my usual routine. And "going to sleep" definitely begins before actually getting in bed.) But it does sound like you've been trying good practices and they're not working. 

 

1 minute ago, Clinically insane said:

No. But *hugs*

i dont sleep well either…..

so

oh ok then…….

wait… does my nightlight count as a light?

It does indeed! However, a small night light isn't a huge effect (the brighter and bluer the light, the more effect it has), and many people sleep well enough with a nightlight. Some even sleep better with one, if they have any anxiety issues with complete darkness. Removing it is worth considering as a step to help sleep if you are having trouble sleeping or falling asleep and you're alright with full darkness.
Make sure it's a small dim light, and preferably a "warm" white or even a red or orange color tone. Blue light (even blue-tinged white light) triggers our brains to think daytime. Many LEDs are a blue-tinged white light.

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

1 minute ago, MirkerLurker said:

It does indeed! However, a small night light isn't a huge effect (the brighter and bluer the light, the more effect it has), and many people sleep well enough with a nightlight. Some even sleep better with one, if they have any anxiety issues with complete darkness. Removing it is worth considering as a step to help sleep if you are having trouble sleeping or falling asleep and you're alright with full darkness.
Make sure it's a small dim light, and preferably a "warm" white or even a red or orange color tone. Blue light (even blue-tinged white light) triggers our brains to think daytime. Many LEDs are a blue-tinged white light

^^ Yepyep

[Keke They/he]

7 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Yes, though if the lack of a nightlight causes you distress/worry/etc., then I believe those feelings will keep you up more than the small amount of light will. So if you feel better sleeping with one, do so 

 

7 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

It does indeed! However, a small night light isn't a huge effect (the brighter and bluer the light, the more effect it has), and many people sleep well enough with a nightlight. Some even sleep better with one, if they have any anxiety issues with complete darkness. Removing it is worth considering as a step to help sleep if you are having trouble sleeping or falling asleep and you're alright with full darkness.
Make sure it's a small dim light, and preferably a "warm" white or even a red or orange color tone. Blue light (even blue-tinged white light) triggers our brains to think daytime. Many LEDs are a blue-tinged white light.

Ok, I’ll see if i can get a dimmer one. Cause if its to dark in my room I hallucinate so… yeah..l thats not good….

mines bright enough that i can still comfortabley see but also me room is smol.

danke

[Existential]

59 minutes ago, MirkerLurker said:

Dang, you've tried a lot already, huh. I'm with Taln on this one - it sounds like you should check with your doctor, maybe get bloodwork done, and see if there's an underlying medical factor. Because all the things you listed are pretty much the spectrum of the various tricks for falling asleep. I'll back up what Taln said about limiting food/liquid, exercise, and screens/lights prior to trying to sleep - what he laid out has proved true in my personal experience. (I don't turn off all lights and stretch before bed like he does, but I might start doing that, actually, it sounds really helpful - a step up from my usual routine. And "going to sleep" definitely begins before actually getting in bed.) But it does sound like you've been trying good practices and they're not working. 

 

 

1 hour ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

First of all, I'd highly recommend asking your doctor about it if you've been having that consistent of a sleep problem, for that long

As for tips, I'd recommend 

- Follow the 321 rule: No food 3 hrs before bed (at least not any big meals) , no exercise 2 hrs before, and no liquids an hour before 

- For the most part, any small amount of light can reset your internal clock by several hours, so try to limit light exposure leading up to bedtime, including phone/devices. I personally like to turn off all the lights (and my phone) and stretch 30 mins before bed, and that's helped me

I do have diagnosed chronic insomnia, which i forgot to mention in earlier post

Just trying to combat it a bit

3 hours ago, Just A Silvereye said:

*hugs*

So I don't really know what makes you stay awake so late, but for me it was... like,  my brain refusing to stop. I would keep turning around for hours in bed thinking about stuff (often but not always related to my current issues) and eventually fall asleep only a couple hours before I had to wake up.

I've had better nights recently, but I am not entirely sure why. I feel that good nights are the ones where I can "switch off" that process and just let myself drift away. But I haven't found how to do that reliably. All I know is that melatonin helps usually, as well as a bit of reading just before bedtime, but even then it still doesn't work all the time. But it's something. 

Sorry if you have already been told that or tried it. 

Anyway *hugs again tight*

yeah, sounds right. That used to work, but hasn't for a bit

[Mags she/they]

10 hours ago, Dabi said:

Does anyone have any tips on falling asleep that aren't mindfulness stuff, meditation, medication, breathing exercises, being active, white noise, music, or temperature relation?

 

Cause I haven't slept nearly at all in a month and I would really like to know if there's just something I'm missing

Yeah . . . I'm definitely not the best person to give advice, but here's some things that help me:

--I sleep with one of those silly face masks that rich people wear in the moves, and it really helps. I have a hard time keeping my eyes closed when lying in bed + I need it to be completely dark to fall asleep, so having a cloth over my eyes helps me a lot. It helps me keep my eyes closed, and having my eyes closed tells my brain it's time to sleep, so I sleep sooner.

--Have you ever tried a white noise/ ambiance machine? I know those can really help some people. I like it too, though I don't need it.

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, Magi said:

sleep with one of those silly face masks that rich people wear in the moves, and it really helps. I have a hard time keeping my eyes closed when lying in bed + I need it to be completely dark to fall asleep, so having a cloth over my eyes helps me a lot. It helps me keep my eyes closed, and having my eyes closed tells my brain it's time to sleep, so I sleep sooner.

I WOULD USE THOSEbut

they annoy my eyelashes. Do you know a design that doesn’t rub ur eyes?

[Mags she/they]

2 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

I WOULD USE THOSEbut

they annoy my eyelashes. Do you know a design that doesn’t rub ur eyes?

I have no idea . . . I bought mine at a family dollar, it's really cheap I should probably get a replacement lol 

For me, the point is that it kind of holds my eyes closed, so I want it to press down on my eyes. I don't mind that my eyelashes hit it when I open/close my eyes while it's on.

[Keke They/he]

Just now, Magi said:

I have no idea . . . I bought mine at a family dollar, it's really cheap I should probably get a replacement lol 

For me, the point is that it kind of holds my eyes closed, so I want it to press down on my eyes. I don't mind that my eyelashes hit it when I open/close my eyes while it's on.

Dang.

also

nice pfp. What’s it from?

[Mags she/they]

4 minutes ago, Clinically insane said:

Dang.

also

nice pfp. What’s it from?

Thanks! It's from Frieren: Beyond Journey's End, one of my favorite anime! Though the specific picture is an illustration from the manga, I think.

Edited March 18, 2025 by Magi

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, Magi said:

Thanks! It's from Frieren: Beyond Journey's End, when of my favorite anime! Though the specific picture is an illustration from the manga, I think.

Ill watch it!

Im watching two anime’s rn tho so ittle be a bit.

Edited March 18, 2025 by Clinically insane