SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 This will be inchoerent. Sorry. Been having a panic attack all morning, so coherency kind of dropped down the list of storming priorities. So, I'm pretty sure by now everyone knows about my OCD, and obsession with cleaning things and concern's that things-that-touch-things-that-were-places are dirty and to be avoided. Of course, when I say everyone, I mean everyone who isn't a member of my imediate family because really, why would they know or care about something like that? So, my family. Last night, one of them happened to stand on something that I am very uncomfortable with, in terms of "cleanliness". In their bare feet. They then proceeded to walk across all the floors in the house. This was veyr late at night, too late for me to be able to wash the floors out -or more accurately, get someone else to do so, since again, I can't touch the mop because it's dirty- which meant that then I had to walk over the floors. And, of course, since this is late at night I was ready for bed, so I was walking over the dirty floors in my bare feet, and then had to get into my bed, and... Basically, I've spent this morning flipping out because I want to have my bed burnt, all the floors in the house washed, and want to go to the shower and start scrubbing until my skin starts coming off. Sorry. I'm not really... expecting any replies to that or anything. But I'd rather freak out online than keep freaking out "inside", especially since I've been spending the day thinking about it, and getting... really frustrated. Sorry... Would washing your feet have helped? ( Be aware that I have no idea what you are experiencing as I couldn't care less what happens to my body/what happens in my immediate vicinity. )
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 I need a punching bag. Someone influential but not very present in my life has a low opinion of me, partly by my own fault and partly because this person sees the worst in the individual circumstances when we've actually interacted, and then extrapolates that as a general rule. Ie, sees me sniffling. *Delightful is always sick and she isn't capable of finding a dr or taking medication* And now every time I turn around it seems like this person is making up negative crap about me - out of nowhere -and then believing it. And I just REALLY need a punching bag and a good cry. How do you deal with people like that???? I'm sorry. I have a few people in my life who do that sort of thing. It's usually as a weapon--"Twi, you're always complaining about work. You always see the negative in everyone and everything, and it's going to get you fired one day!" The way I combat it is by not telling those people any more than I have to. My mom asks how work was? "Good." No more, no less. Give them as little information to extrapolate from as possible. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Do you ever have one of those moments where you remember a fight, or an argument, where you didn't defend yourself? And then you think of the exact thing you should have said—never mind that it probably would've made the fight worse; you would've said the perfect thing to shut them down and make sure they thought twice before laying into you again—and you wish you could go back to say that thing? And then you realize it's a good thing you didn't say anything at the time because then your twenty-three-year-old brother almost certainly would've told your mom that you swore at him? Yeah. Had one of those. 3
Kobold King he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Do you ever have one of those moments where you remember a fight, or an argument, where you didn't defend yourself? And then you think of the exact thing you should have said—never mind that it probably would've made the fight worse; you would've said the perfect thing to shut them down and make sure they thought twice before laying into you again—and you wish you could go back to say that thing? And then you realize it's a good thing you didn't say anything at the time because then your twenty-three-year-old brother almost certainly would've told your mom that you swore at him? Yeah. Had one of those. Um... not often, but I think I know what you're talking about. Do you want to rant about the specifics a bit?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Um... not often, but I think I know what you're talking about. Do you want to rant about the specifics a bit? It was a week or so ago, when I started venting to my brother about something our mom did. I don't remember what, exactly, but he basically told me to shut up. He said I did the same things I was accusing Mom of doing, that it made me a hypocrite, etc., etc. I stormed out in the middle of his rant, but he followed me into my room and said "That is one hundred percent PROOF of my point!" At the time, I didn't say anything. I just let him storm out and then locked my door behind him. I wished I'd said, "No, it's one-hundred percent proof you're being a chull." But then again, that would have prolonged the fight, made him storm downstairs to tell our mom I'd sworn at him (never mind he also occasionally swears behind her back) and brought the Wrath of Mom down on me. And now I wish I hadn't even thought of it, because I'm tempted to pointedly ignore him when I see him next, but I know that's immature and wouldn't solve anything. 3
Edgedancer he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 It was a week or so ago, when I started venting to my brother about something our mom did. I don't remember what, exactly, but he basically told me to shut up. He said I did the same things I was accusing Mom of doing, that it made me a hypocrite, etc., etc. I stormed out in the middle of his rant, but he followed me into my room and said "That is one hundred percent PROOF of my point!" At the time, I didn't say anything. I just let him storm out and then locked my door behind him. I wished I'd said, "No, it's one-hundred percent proof you're being a chull." But then again, that would have prolonged the fight, made him storm downstairs to tell our mom I'd sworn at him (never mind he also occasionally swears behind her back) and brought the Wrath of Mom down on me. And now I wish I hadn't even thought of it, because I'm tempted to pointedly ignore him when I see him next, but I know that's immature and wouldn't solve anything. Was it that time about editing your mother's blog? Anyway, yeah it would probably better not to throw that at him, even if he deserves it. You know, be the bigger person. I fully understand your frustation though. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Was it that time about editing your mother's blog? Anyway, yeah it would probably better not to throw that at him, even if he deserves it. You know, be the bigger person. I fully understand your frustation though. Right, that's what it was about. I was venting about our mom passive-aggressively posting her blog without my editing it, and he accused me of being a hypocrite. I'm definitely being more careful about what I tell him, though. Sticking to surfacey stuff. No complaining, nothing like that.
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 So... you're 23 year old brother would tell on you to your mom because you used a swear? I'd hound him relentlessly for that. "Hey, Bro! You forgot your bottle!" "Hey, let's get this bib on you before you eat, else you'll get food everywhere!" (alternatively, you could give him a coloring book and crayons when eating out at a restaurant) "What's that? You're tired of being treated like a wittle baby? Then grow the storm up!" Of course, my parents would not put up with such nonsense... well, my mother anyway. 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 So... you're 23 year old brother would tell on you to your mom because you used a swear? I'd hound him relentlessly for that. "Hey, Bro! You forgot your bottle!" "Hey, let's get this bib on you before you eat, else you'll get food everywhere!" (alternatively, you could give him a coloring book and crayons when eating out at a restaurant) "What's that? You're tired of being treated like a wittle baby? Then grow the storm up!" Of course, my parents would not put up with such nonsense... well, my mother anyway. Neither would mine. I'd be in the wrong for not treating him nicely, and when it came out why I was treating him that way, they'd read me the riot act. Forever. 1
Kobold King he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 Neither would mine. I'd be in the wrong for not treating him nicely, and when it came out why I was treating him that way, they'd read me the riot act. Forever. What if you repeatedly interrupted them with "storm off" every time your mother started one of her lectures? I bet they'd learn to keep their tones respectful before long. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 What if you repeatedly interrupted them with "storm off" every time your mother started one of her lectures? I bet they'd learn to keep their tones respectful before long. I tried something like that before. It didn't end well. I'm just going to wait until they can't toss the "YOU LIVE HERE RENT-FREE!!!1!!!11!!!1111!!!!" line at me anymore. (And if you're curious, I've offered to pay rent before, and to do my own laundry, and cook my own meals, and everything else my mom complains about when she's upset at me. And she always refuses. It's not about the rent or the laundry; it's about having a trump card. ) 1
SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him Posted August 1, 2015 Posted August 1, 2015 I tried something like that before. It didn't end well. I'm just going to wait until they can't toss the "YOU LIVE HERE RENT-FREE!!!1!!!11!!!1111!!!!" line at me anymore. (And if you're curious, I've offered to pay rent before, and to do my own laundry, and cook my own meals, and everything else my mom complains about when she's upset at me. And she always refuses. It's not about the rent or the laundry; it's about having a trump card. ) You paying rent would change the dynamic between you two. In both your eyes it would put you as somewhat equal and I'd say she isn't ready for that yet. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 (edited) Dear People of Walmart, 8:15 PM. Checkout lane. Two more are open; the line behind you is three people deep. Your cashier just wants to go home. So does everyone behind you. THIS IS NOT A TIME TO HAGGLE AND FRET OVER YOUR DECISIONS. Edited August 2, 2015 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles 1
Kobold King he/him Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 (edited) Dear People of Walmart, 8:15 PM. Checkout lane. Two more are open; the line behind you is three people deep. Your cashier just wants to go home. So does everyone behind you. THIS IS NOT A TIME TO HAGGLE AND FRET OVER YOUR DECISIONS. There are way better places to make these decisions. For instance, on the aisles themselves. It doesn't even have to be the right aisle. My mom and I once stumbled across a large box of Krispy Kreme donuts lodged on a shelf in the women's underwear aisle. We believe that the numbers on the underwear made someone less certain that she wanted to eat an entire box of donuts, and I applaud her for the willpower to make this decision. ...Where was I? Edited August 2, 2015 by Kobold King 4
Jo and the Bush all/any Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Dear People of Walmart, 8:15 PM. Checkout lane. Two more are open; the line behind you is three people deep. Your cashier just wants to go home. So does everyone behind you. THIS IS NOT A TIME TO HAGGLE AND FRET OVER YOUR DECISIONS. Half the time, people post problems that I've never experienced, so i can't give good advice, and I don't like saying things like 'Things will get better'. So instead, I will post links to funny MLP stories i think people will like. Twi, your first story is Shipping Sickness. 2
Kobold King he/him Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Half the time, people post problems that I've never experienced, so i can't give good advice, and I don't like saying things like 'Things will get better'. So instead, I will post links to funny MLP stories i think people will like. Twi, your first story is Shipping Sickness. That's one of the few that made me laugh (and facepalm a little) out loud.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 2, 2015 Posted August 2, 2015 Half the time, people post problems that I've never experienced, so i can't give good advice, and I don't like saying things like 'Things will get better'. So instead, I will post links to funny MLP stories i think people will like. Twi, your first story is Shipping Sickness. Oh, the puns. And the shipping. So much shipping. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Ugh, I hate those. That stupid light could mean anything from "Your gas cap is loose" to "Your engine is about to fall out of your car and you need to get it to a mechanic before your vehicle explodes in the middle of the freeway." 3
ThirdGen Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 And you used to be able to go to an auto parts store and use their readers to see what's going on. Newer policies have curbed that. Nope, take it into a mechanic for the next round of the Mobility Tax. 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 And you used to be able to go to an auto parts store and use their readers to see what's going on. Newer policies have curbed that. Nope, take it into a mechanic for the next round of the Mobility Tax. James has a program on his phone he uses to read our cars. I'm not sure how much fiddling it would take for your van, but he might be able to pull the code. 1
Jo and the Bush all/any Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 My check engine light has been on for the past 7 years. We just ignore it. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 My check engine light has been on for the past 7 years. We just ignore it. I couldn't do that. The second my check engine light came on, I called the mechanic and asked when I could bring it in. Turns out it was a faulty thermometer in the engine. 2
Blaze1616 he/him Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 And you used to be able to go to an auto parts store and use their readers to see what's going on. Newer policies have curbed that. Nope, take it into a mechanic for the next round of the Mobility Tax. James has a program on his phone he uses to read our cars. I'm not sure how much fiddling it would take for your van, but he might be able to pull the code. There's free apps on the Google market (don't know about Apple or Windows) that utilize bluetooth to scan the "flags", as they're known. The app I have is $5, though there is a free version, and you might need to purchase a "dongle" (honestly, that is what it's called) for an additional $10. Let me know if you'd like more info. 1
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Hey, could be worse. Commonly, you just did not screw on your gas cap tight enough. You can tighten that sucker, disconnect the battery and reconnect to reset the light and see if it comes back on. Speaking of things being worse, sometime in the past few months, one of the rear struts in my car snapped off, taking a chunk out of the wheel well with it. This essentially kills the car. 1
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