I Am Witless Posted January 1, 2018 Report Share Posted January 1, 2018 So, this is kind of a random and depressing question, but my best friend's grandfather is dying of ALS, and I don't know what to do. Hugs, yes, chocolate, yes, yet otherwise I'm witless. She almost seems to be blaming herself for.... something. "When you know it's the last of someone's mortal life that you will talk to them in, what do you say? When you will look back on that day and forever regret or be satisfied with what you said, what words?" How do I help her? How can I comfort her and help her feel loved? We are both Mormon, so we have the "families are eternal, and you will see them in the life to come" part down, but when death knocks, eternity seems very a long ways away. Does anyone have any advice on how to help her? I would appreciate it a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ammanas Posted January 1, 2018 Report Share Posted January 1, 2018 Just tell them once that you are there for them if they ever want to talk about it. They are probably sick of talking about it and worrying about the situation and, when they spend time with you, they want to forget about everything for a while and just not think about it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orlion Blight Posted January 1, 2018 Report Share Posted January 1, 2018 That's some good advice, @Ammanas. I will only add a bit more. You should assume that you will not ever be able to make things "better" or "easier." So do not make that your goal. If your friend open ups to you, let her, but be a compassionate ear, not a dispenser of platitudes and tired aphorism. Be there for her. Try to read the situation. Things are going to get real stressful for your friend, recognizing when you can help her and doing so will be appreciated. It's hard for me to come up with an example, since it's circumstantial and I don't want to get personal. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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