The fact that Kaladin and Lift got more named abilities from one surge that from the other doesn't mean that they got a better affinity to said surge. Kaladin learned to use Adhesion well enough before he was able to use Gravitation properly. Shallan had problems trying to get Transformation to work properly, succeeding only two known times (the goblet to blood and the ship), but was able to use Illumination throughout the whole book (and likely during her childhood, patterns in the gardens, dreams that became real, etc.), Lift was using Abrasion for a long time before her interlude (as stated by Wyndle), but used Regrowth only a few times, with Wyndle's instructions, and used Growth for the first time on Gawk.
That being said the biggest problem to your theory is the WoB, that the surges act the same to each order that got them (Gravitation to Windrunners and Skybreakers, etc.), I just don't know how to find the right quote.
About Windrunners, wind is created by differences in air pressure between to spots, resulting in the movement of the wind, and pressure and vacuum is exactly what Adhesion is about.