I'm saying it's not superficial, or it is as superficial as between Kaladin and Shallan.
I meant that this argument didn't strike me as one that could be applied to Dalinar at all because he really didn't have an option of choosing between Navani and Evi.
Yes.
Edit to not double post:
"to add one more bit of clarity. It sounds to me that you are of the camp that feel Shallan and Adolin should be together."mimicing?"
In case of WoR and OB it's better fit for all three of them in my opinion, Kaladin has serious depression and he needs to deal with this himself (obviously not alone but not by getting into relationship) not "by someone else", he has lot's of friends and people close to him. So if marriage between Shallan and Adolin helps her with her own problems she can be better help to others, same with problems that Adolin have (or will have in 4 book), so yes in my opinion they should be together until as books go something happens or someone dies.
"Based on that, do you have anything to add to the third theory that says Adolin understands Shallan better than Kaladin"
Well he sees her as who she is and accepts her multiple personalities even if not agrees with the choices that personalities made, he also can instinctively recognize when Shallan uses Lightweaving or have some changes, while Kalladin understands Shallan because they both have tragic past and feels better when she is around same as with Tien (so not romantic relation), for the tragic past that also could add another implications when Adolin finds out how his mother died.