DramaQueen

Advice for guys (and girls and anyone interested)

If you have a crush on someone, pay attention to them. Remember things they tell you. Ask about things they're interested in. Etc.

My cousin has five kids and a little while back had gotten divorced and was dating other people. Her now-husband was one of these people she was dating, but there was another guy.

To kind of "test" them against each other, she asked them both how much they knew about her kids. 

The guy she ended up marrying knew all their names, and he'd always ask her about them, trying to learn more about them.

The other guy was like "uhh I think there's four? Or five?" and only remembered like...one name.

The guy she married also just remembered so many things about her and about things she cared about. For one of their dates, he recreated her flower shop, which she really really missed from where she used to live, and she taught him how to arrange flowers and it was a date that he planned specifically because of something she loved and missed and he wanted to give that back to her.

Also. Sweet things. Write a song for them, or a parody of a song if that's more doable. If they write music or poetry, you could even parody/reprise a writing of theirs.

Like Adam Young of Owl City.

Taylor Swift wrote the song "Enchanted" about him. They met, both were immediately enchanted by each other, they exchanged emails how cute is that and Taylor was "blushing all the way home" and when she got home there was an email from him waiting for her, telling her that he was "wonderstruck" (hence why that word is in the song).

After the song was released, Adam Young wrote his own version of it ("I was enchanted to meet you too") and also had a letter attached to it, saying stuff like "I'll be the first to admit that I'm really shy, but you were like a princess from a fairy tale and since music is the most eloquent way I know to communicate, I wrote this for you"

Just

Ahhh

(Taylor never even acknowledged it, he was too late, but it sure makes him look better in my eyes that he'd do something like that for her)

Do things for the special people in your life. Care about their interests, even if it's not something you'd normally be interested in. And like, you don't have to care about it, just care that they care about it.

...thank you for coming to my TED talk