TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 From what I can tell, the seniors are no more mature than 6th graders, it's just a different sense of the word. My foot got stomped on so many times by some guy who was jumping up and down on the bleachers. Too hyped, I guess. There is such a thing as too much school spirit. Edit: Thanks for the advice. It helps a lot. Yes. Yes there is. I went to two different high schools, and worked for another. Aside from location, there wasn't much difference. School spirit is overdone.
Kobold King he/him Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Yes. Yes there is. I went to two different high schools, and worked for another. Aside from location, there wasn't much difference. School spirit is overdone. School spirit is the same in essence as tribal savages shaking their spears and shouting the name of their tribe at the top of their lungs. I mean, both tribes and schools even have totem/mascot animals, for Pete's sake. 5
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 School spirit is the same in essence as tribal savages shaking their spears and shouting the name of their tribe at the top of their lungs. I mean, both tribes and schools even have totem/mascot animals, for Pete's sake. Schools are just more annoying about it. I mean, how many tribes made/make their members go to regular assemblies where a tiny fraction of the tribe, famed for their prowess in tossing an oblong ball back and forth, are praised for embodying the tribe's best qualities? (No offense to football players. I just think the focus on it is ridiculous.) 6
Briar King Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 As bad as it sounds Twi I'm actually glad you caught that neg. it was perfect timing on my part cause I hit the button and put my phone down then when I turned it back on I saw it was red and I figured it was me. There's no telling how often and to who I might have done that and never even noticed! Bad thing here is once you hit it it does it. On Malazan we have to hit then send or cancel so it's way less mistake prone. I ll have to remember to landscape on each vote maybe it ll help. 1
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Edit: Okay, seriously? I'm sorry that what I said offended you, but you don't live with my mom. I do. I see what she does, and trust me, I'm not complaining to complain. I NEED to vent here. If what I say about my mom offends you that much, shoot me a PM and I'll explain. Just seriously, enough with the stealth downvotes. There's a theme here and it's getting ridiculous. Your mother and/or father has created an account to extend their bothersome influence into the 17th Shard sphere of your life! AHHHH! PANIC! FETCH THE PRIEST, WE NEED AN EXORCISM! 4
Quiver he/him Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 "You need to get back on those pills the doctor gave you." "You're trying to make the rest of us as bad as you." Storms. Thanks family. You know, I was stressing the storm out, but that -that was exactly what I needed to storming hear. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 "You need to get back on those pills the doctor gave you." "You're trying to make the rest of us as bad as you." Storms. Thanks family. You know, I was stressing the storm out, but that -that was exactly what I needed to storming hear. What sympathy they have for you. I'm sorry, Quiver. Anything I can do?
Quiver he/him Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Thanks. Sorry. Urgh. Look. I know what I worry about is silly. Having that thrown at me everyday though? Being told that I'm dumb for having the fears I do, for worrying about nothing? It doesn't help. Sorry for complaining here. My problems tend to be self-induced, its just... Its bothering me right now. 2
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Thanks. Sorry. Urgh. Look. I know what I worry about is silly. Having that thrown at me everyday though? Being told that I'm dumb for having the fears I do, for worrying about nothing? It doesn't help. Sorry for complaining here. My problems tend to be self-induced, its just... Its bothering me right now. Complaining is what this thread is for. And honestly, I don't think they have any right to tell you that you worry about silly things and accuse you of "harshing their mellow" or whatever because of it. As someone who stopped sharing her worries with her family because said family would mock and/or lecture me for them, I think they should be treating the worrying itself with care, even if they don't agree with what you're worrying about. It doesn't matter if your worry that an eighteen-wheeler is going to crash through your house in the middle of the night is unfounded and the danger slight. What matters is that it's consuming a portion of your mental energy. That alone should be cause for compassion. Worrying isn't fun. 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Pretty self-explanatory. Eleven-year-old sister's hamster died yesterday, and my mom and other siblings are calling her "dramatic" and "attention-seeking" for being sad about it. And, okay, I kind of get where they're coming from. She didn't play with him much, and her main contribution to his care was cleaning his cage while the rest of us held him and fed him. But here's a thought: That hamster didn't seem to like her. He bit her when she'd try to hold him, and he rarely bit anyone. Maybe, just maybe, she didn't hold him because she was afraid to hold him? And did you ever think that now, part of her grief could come from guilt—guilt that you, Mom and Siblings, will doubtless feed by reminding her that she rarely held or played with him? And, on top of that, it's been a month since my interview with the local library. Maybe there's still a chance I got it, but I'm starting to think that their call will be of the "Thank you for your time, but…." variety. Which sucks, because every single other library I've applied to has sent me rejection letters, so I'm starting to resign myself to a future where I never get a job better than the one I've got, despite my Master's degree and experience. 7
Blaze1616 he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 And, on top of that, it's been a month since my interview with the local library. Maybe there's still a chance I got it, but I'm starting to think that their call will be of the "Thank you for your time, but…." variety. Which sucks, because every single other library I've applied to has sent me rejection letters, so I'm starting to resign myself to a future where I never get a job better than the one I've got, despite my Master's degree and experience. Finding a job is a long, arduous, and painful process. My father searched for two years before throwing in the towel. You just have to remember that getting rejected is nothing personal. Keep your head held high, fair TwiLyght. We all have faith in you! 2
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Pretty self-explanatory. Eleven-year-old sister's hamster died yesterday, and my mom and other siblings are calling her "dramatic" and "attention-seeking" for being sad about it. And, okay, I kind of get where they're coming from. She didn't play with him much, and her main contribution to his care was cleaning his cage while the rest of us held him and fed him. But here's a thought: That hamster didn't seem to like her. He bit her when she'd try to hold him, and he rarely bit anyone. Maybe, just maybe, she didn't hold him because she was afraid to hold him? And did you ever think that now, part of her grief could come from guilt—guilt that you, Mom and Siblings, will doubtless feed by reminding her that she rarely held or played with him? Parenting Rule #312: If your child is having trouble dealing with the death of a pet, make it all about you! You brought that little snot into the world, the least she could do is shower you with as much attention and validation as you crave! 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Parenting Rule #312: If your child is having trouble dealing with the death of a pet, make it all about you! You brought that little snot into the world, the least she could do is shower you with as much attention and validation as you crave! Pretty much, yeah. Last night when I got home from work, my mom told me that the hamster had died and that my sister "cried and carried on and was super dramatic about it," and then apparently expected me to sympathize with her, not my sister. My sister who, aside from owning the hamster, was the one who found him dead in his cage when she went to clean it. 3
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Pretty much, yeah. Last night when I got home from work, my mom told me that the hamster had died and that my sister "cried and carried on and was super dramatic about it," and then apparently expected me to sympathize with her, not my sister. My sister who, aside from owning the hamster, was the one who found him dead in his cage when she went to clean it. Sheesh, some people are a piece of work. 1
Kobold King he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Pretty self-explanatory. Eleven-year-old sister's hamster died yesterday, and my mom and other siblings are calling her "dramatic" and "attention-seeking" for being sad about it. And, okay, I kind of get where they're coming from. She didn't play with him much, and her main contribution to his care was cleaning his cage while the rest of us held him and fed him. But here's a thought: That hamster didn't seem to like her. He bit her when she'd try to hold him, and he rarely bit anyone. Maybe, just maybe, she didn't hold him because she was afraid to hold him? And did you ever think that now, part of her grief could come from guilt—guilt that you, Mom and Siblings, will doubtless feed by reminding her that she rarely held or played with him? This is disgusting. Just flat-out disgusting. As a farmer, the death of one of your animals is always traumatic. It doesn't matter whether it's a well-loved cat or a chicken you barely know. Experiencing an animal's death--and especially being the one to discover said death--is an awful ordeal to go through, and it's appalling that your mother is belittling her ward's grief like this. I may be overstating my case, since I'm feeling pretty bad myself today, but I can't think of anything that could justify this sort of reaction to her child's loss. 5
Orlion Blight he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 (edited) I believe you got the heart of the matter exactly right, Kobold. Stumbling upon a dead animal, perhaps particularly if you have never experienced it before, would be jarring at the very least. To pretend otherwise seems... cynical... Edited August 20, 2015 by Orlion 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Pretty self-explanatory. Eleven-year-old sister's hamster died yesterday, and my mom and other siblings are calling her "dramatic" and "attention-seeking" for being sad about it. And, okay, I kind of get where they're coming from. She didn't play with him much, and her main contribution to his care was cleaning his cage while the rest of us held him and fed him. But here's a thought: That hamster didn't seem to like her. He bit her when she'd try to hold him, and he rarely bit anyone. Maybe, just maybe, she didn't hold him because she was afraid to hold him? And did you ever think that now, part of her grief could come from guilt—guilt that you, Mom and Siblings, will doubtless feed by reminding her that she rarely held or played with him? And, on top of that, it's been a month since my interview with the local library. Maybe there's still a chance I got it, but I'm starting to think that their call will be of the "Thank you for your time, but…." variety. Which sucks, because every single other library I've applied to has sent me rejection letters, so I'm starting to resign myself to a future where I never get a job better than the one I've got, despite my Master's degree and experience. I'm sorry that you're having a tough time with the job search. Just remember that it's not you; it's just that the libraries in question are foolishly choosing other people in the false belief that they are more awesome than you. I know it's tough, but there comes a time when you just have to shake your head in sad sympathy for the poor souls who have such inferior choosing skills. 4
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 This is disgusting. Just flat-out disgusting. As a farmer, the death of one of your animals is always traumatic. It doesn't matter whether it's a well-loved cat or a chicken you barely know. Experiencing an animal's death--and especially being the one to discover said death--is an awful ordeal to go through, and it's appalling that your mother is belittling her ward's grief like this. I may be overstating my case, since I'm feeling pretty bad myself today, but I can't think of anything that could justify this sort of reaction to her child's loss. I believe you got the heart of the matter exactly right, Kobold. Stumbling upon a dead animal, perhaps particularly if you have never experienced it before, would be jarring at the very least. To pretend otherwise seems... cynical... And what everyone seems to be forgetting is that she had to leave her pet cats behind when she came to live with us. So the hamster was not only a reward for good behavior on her part, but a sort of replacement for the cats. I mean, the pugs love her, but still, the hamster was supposed to be special. Now her crying about it to her friends is "attention seeking" and "being dramatic"? I'm sorry, but how is it not dramatic for my mom to tell me what a long day she's had when she never had a huge connection to the hamster in the first place? I'm not saying that a hamster's death wouldn't make the day long, because it would, but sheesh, apply the same standards to the kid you apply to yourself. I'm sorry that you're having a tough time with the job search. Just remember that it's not you; it's just that the libraries in question are foolishly choosing other people in the false belief that they are more awesome than you. I know it's tough, but there comes a time when you just have to shake your head in sad sympathy for the poor souls who have such inferior choosing skills. Thanks. It's hard to see it that way, though. I'm a recent graduate with little experience, so they're probably hiring out-of-work aerospace engineers with NASA on their resumes, while I sit here with my year at a public high school and pitiful little internship. I know applying for jobs is something I have to do, but it's gotten to the point where I get depressed every time I start to fill out an app because I feel like it's a job I'm not going to get. 3
Mailliw73 he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Wow. That's...wow. I mean, she's 11! Maybe if she were 30, it'd be a bit strange, but even then, she still deserves sympathy. But at 11, this is normal behavior for a child. 2
Kobold King he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Wow. That's...wow. I mean, she's 11! Maybe if she were 30, it'd be a bit strange, but even then, she still deserves sympathy. But at 11, this is normal behavior for a child. I still catch a sob in my throat when one of my chickens falls deathly ill. And I'm not ashamed to admit that I break into tears like a two year-old if anything happens to one of my cats. Death is never something to take lightly. It's callous to brush off any level of grief as "attention-seeking." I would even go so far as to say it's cruel. 6
Kaymyth she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 And what everyone seems to be forgetting is that she had to leave her pet cats behind when she came to live with us. So the hamster was not only a reward for good behavior on her part, but a sort of replacement for the cats. I mean, the pugs love her, but still, the hamster was supposed to be special. Now her crying about it to her friends is "attention seeking" and "being dramatic"? I'm sorry, but how is it not dramatic for my mom to tell me what a long day she's had when she never had a huge connection to the hamster in the first place? I'm not saying that a hamster's death wouldn't make the day long, because it would, but sheesh, apply the same standards to the kid you apply to yourself. Thanks. It's hard to see it that way, though. I'm a recent graduate with little experience, so they're probably hiring out-of-work aerospace engineers with NASA on their resumes, while I sit here with my year at a public high school and pitiful little internship. I know applying for jobs is something I have to do, but it's gotten to the point where I get depressed every time I start to fill out an app because I feel like it's a job I'm not going to get. It might help if you start casting your net wider. There are a lot of other things to do with a library sciences degree. I know what you really want is to be a youth librarian, but you may need to put in a few years as, say, an archivist before you break into your preferred niche. Apply for everything you're qualified for. 2
Briar King Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 1st world problems: my left thumb starts to ache after about 30 minutes of playing Destiny and that's bumming me out big time. Now what's making me even more bummed out is the missiles being fired on Korean border. Seriously one of Kim's generals needs to take that crazy dude out.
Silverblade5 he/him Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 And what everyone seems to be forgetting is that she had to leave her pet cats behind when she came to live with us. So the hamster was not only a reward for good behavior on her part, but a sort of replacement for the cats. I mean, the pugs love her, but still, the hamster was supposed to be special. Now her crying about it to her friends is "attention seeking" and "being dramatic"? I'm sorry, but how is it not dramatic for my mom to tell me what a long day she's had when she never had a huge connection to the hamster in the first place? I don't know. Why don't you ask her? 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 I don't know. Why don't you ask her? I can't. She flies into a rage- filled lecture if any of her actions, motives, or philosophies are questioned.
Briar King Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Losing a pet is never an easy thing. Idc if it's a fish, snake, dog, lizard it still blows esp for kids.
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