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59 minutes ago, Channelknight Fadran said:

 

 

Umm... what do I do in this situation?

Do it. Do what we are all telling you to do. You could also include a picture of real books... (I'm currently in a library and I am supremely happy.)

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Just now, DramaQueen said:

Do it. Do what we are all telling you to do. You could also include a picture of real books... (I'm currently in a library and I am supremely happy.)

:0 My library is closed still no fair.

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2 minutes ago, AonEne said:

While reading this thread, I decided I wanted to tell my crush I like them casually and out of the blue, but now I’m having second thoughts :ph34r: 

Tell them!!! You're awesome, how could they not like you back?

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Wow, thank you both, you’re very good to me :lol: even if they don’t like me back, it’s fine, as long as they don’t stop being friends with me. Then I’ll die inside. But whatever is best for them works for me. 

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On 8/1/2020 at 11:49 AM, Channelknight Fadran said:

Aight, brothers. How didst thou express to thine crush that thou liked them? Didst thou perform the noble art of "telling the truth," or wast thou like me, ignoring her for three years straight in hopes that she'd "notice your aura of calmness."

Funny story. My crush’s best friend found out we liked each other and forced us to tell each other—the night after we went on a date together. Somehow it got that far before we actually said anything.

But it worked out!

On 8/1/2020 at 4:46 PM, Channelknight Fadran said:

Huh.

I had figured only about half of that out. Nice, thanks!

How do guys work? Uhh...

Guys rarely go by halves. There isn't an option, as far as I know, that is "I kinda like this person but not too much." Guys either like you or don't like you. Whether or not they know this, however, is individual to each person. When it comes to liking someone, guys have a variety of methods of showing that. I'll list them below:

  1. "Maxiumum Aloofness." This beautiful advice given by Sokka to Aang in the fourteenth episode of Avatar: The Last Airbender is a perfect representation of a good portion of guys. These guys will outwardly appear as if they don't care about the person they have a crush on. I was like this for about three years or so, and I can't actually find a good reason why I did it. Guys will trick themselves into thinking that if they completely ignore the person they like, then that person will eventually notice them. This does not mean that every guy who ignores you has a crush on you; just some of them do. A good way to pick these people out of a crowd is to try to talk to them: chances are they'll freeze up and stutter, or act as though they've been your friend for years and chat smoother than you might anticipate.
  2. "OverFlirtation." If a guy is flirting with you, then he might have a crush on you! That's how it works! However, you have to know the person who's flirting; if they flirt with everybody, then you're just another girl (that was painful to write. GUYS!!! THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS JUST ANOTHER GIRL!!! EVERYONE IS UNIQUE!!! Ok, that's out of my system now. Moving on). If they only flirt with you and a couple other people, then they probably like you and those other people. They might lean towards Aloofness as they do this, flirting with people they don't like in order to cover up the fact that they're flirting with you because they like you. To make sure you're not an "extra" (and I sure hope to goodness that none of you are. I would find and kill anybody who considers anybody an extra), try flirting back. If they seem excited, congrats! You got them! If they seem uncomfortable... then they're a sexist son of a chull and you're just a coverup. Ask your brawny friend (or me, but I'm not brawny) to beat them up for you.
  3. "The Experienced." Those past two methods are generally starter phases for most guys. I certainly went through both (I didn't flirt with anybody to coverup, though. Even I'm not that much of a jerk). After awhile, though, a guy will finally learn that in order to get a girl to like them, they have to become friends first. They may have absolutely no idea how to go through with this, so sometimes you might want to take initiative and start befriending them first (I'll put good methods to do this in a subsection. Am I seriously categorizing crush identification? This is weird). If, in the case that the guy does know what he's doing, he'll play it smooth, but not too smooth. He'll start conversations on his own, he'll respond to you without freezing up too much (he'll still freeze, though. He'll always freeze), and he might even go so far as to swallow his pride and buy you a gift on Valentine's day or ask you out. Be careful, though. If you're aware that the guy you like is in a relationship with someone, then you need to stay cautious. Waiting for him to break up is certainly an option, but not a good one. If he turns to you after breaking up with somebody else, then it might just be to prove a point, which is even worse than "extras" or "coverups," in my opinion.

A few more things to note: About 90% of the male population is freaking terrified of females. If you start a conversation with a guy and he instantly freezes, then that does not mean he has a crush on you. If you want to get close to someone who is inexperienced in relationships, then try to use a conduit. Become friends with friends of that person, then join the group and befriend that person. From there... well, from there, it's a bit of a waiting game, because most guys don't know how to pick up flirting signals. Get close to them, help them feel comfortable around you. Eventually, they'll figure out what's going on, and then all you have to do is subtly suggest a date, or mention Valentine's day (guys are also terrified of Valentine's day). Try laughing at things they say: We feel great when we make you laugh (though with @Condensation telling me that girls laugh at everything when they like you... hmm). Guys are also terrified of admitting they like unless they're 100% sure that you like them; if you do something nice for them, though, they're more likely to approach you.

TL;DR... it seems as though the "fearless male warrior" is a huge misconception, because half the verbs in that entire post were the word "terrified."

Other guys! Did I miss anything? What a beautiful way to end a post

~ Fadran

I second that most guys are terrified of girls. That is, until they get to know the girls. Once I started talking to girls, that started to fade away, and now some of my closest friends are female.

Maximum aloofness never works.

Edit: I just have to say that reading through this thread gives me so many laughs (and so many reminders of how awkward us guys can be).

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49 minutes ago, A Windrunner said:

So let's talk about life.

I inserted a random topic. My life is pretty decent, despite the fact that coronavirus still exists. I've been able to go places and do stuff, and I'm still healthy, so yeah! My life is great, for quarantine.

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Life is one of the few pleasures I allow myself in this dark and dreary world which will only lead to the unknown, which causes more fright in its entirety than any spider or snake in existence.

How's yours?

jk im not that depressed

I've been reading a lot, got some friends to join 17th Shard, hung out with said friends, going camping AGAIN Wed-Sat. *sigh* I'll miss you guys :)

BTW, @bruh, Friday won't work, I'll be gone and mom just reminded me of this OSY I'm going to.

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Hey okay, so my friend found out that I have a crush on her brother and it was awkward. I mean, she was alright with it, but she kept laughing once she figured it out. She read the part on the sleepover(see girls only) and figured it out and then didn't say anything about it.

I have experience with boys but not their sisters who are also my friends! HELP.

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