*This is all my own opinion, me giving my two cents
I don’t feel like Kaladin is ready for a romantic relationship, especially with Shallan. He is so possessive and controlling, and blames himself for everything. Shallan is a Knights Radiant, and will be in danger. If she is on a mission, he will be unable to focus on anything else. And if she is hurt, he will blame himself. I feel he needs to grow to let others make their own choices and accept he can’t keep everyone from harm. Then he’ll be ready. And Shallan, right now, isn’t in a great place, and having a relationship with Kaladin, who’s just as broken, might not be the best thing for her right now. While I could see Kaladin and Shallan getting into a relationship, I don’t really want it to happen. I like Shallan and Adolin. And I think there is love there. I know people are saying Adolin doesn’t think of her, but a couple things. One, it is the middle of the apocalypse, and he just killed Sadeas. Two, I feel like though it’s never stated he’s in love, I feel it can be read in between the lines that he has feelings for her. And three, has he ever been in love before? He switched between girls before so fast, he never has felt love before. Attraction? Yes. Real love? No. And even if he doesn’t feel love yet for Shallan, I think he will grow to. The multiple personalities is probably disconcerting. And they haven’t had a ton of time yet to really get to know each other, because again, the Desolation. So, as they spend more time, I think they will grow to really, truly love each other. A lot of people say that Shallan shouldn’t be with Adolin because she doesn’t love him. But, she doesn’t love Kaladin either. Relationships don’t start with people in love most of the time. They start with attraction and grow into love. I know people say she shouldn’t have married Adolin because she doesn’t love him, but it was a political one. And there is attraction, it just hasn’t had time to be nurtured into love. They have problems, like Shallan’s personalities and Adolin’s confidence. This relationship has immense room for growth, which I look forward to. Shallan growing to not need the personalities will be really nice. Like, really really nice. And Adolin’s confidence is something I really want to see explored. Because once Adolin saw Shallan and as Radiants, he feels small, which has never happened before. Plus, I feel he is tired of failing at relationships. He wants this to work, because he is attracted to her, more so than any other girl before(imo). This is what I believe causes him to be so hesitant to accept Shallan likes him and give her so many outs at the end of OB. He is a genuinely nice guy and doesn’t want force her, but he’s also unsure. He feels Kaladin is better than him, and is not accustomed to the “best” not winning, being Alethi. He sees himself as inferior, so doesn’t understand how Shallan is picking him. Finally, he is so tired of failing, and wants this to last long term. Therefore, I believe that he gave her every chance to walk away and think what a relationship with Kaladin would be like now, so if she picks him, it will last for the long haul. All just the feelings and opinions of another fan waiting for SA 4. I’d love your responses, and if you disagree, remember, these are opinions not facts. If you disagree, great, we can have discussion, but don’t attack me, just peacefully disagree. I saw this tread has gotten heated in the past and don’t want that to happen again. Thanks, and have a great day.