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  1. I have been published!

     

    And I have been drawn!

     

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    2. TwiLyghtSansSparkles

      TwiLyghtSansSparkles

      Congratulations! That's awesome!

    3. AonEne

      AonEne

      "humble potato" lol 

      That's great :lol: 

    4. Kaymyth

      Kaymyth

      I began my JordanCon life as a humble potato, but with years of work I have grown into a mighty yam!

  2. I think the primary point that needs to be made at this juncture is that Shallan burying her trauma actually is "sucking it up and moving on." That's what it looks like. That's why sucking it up doesn't work: actually processing trauma involves months, if not years, of work and in 99.9%* of cases, requires the guidance of a therapist in order to make progress. It's just not something a person -- let alone the Earth-equivalent of an 18-19-year-old (my gods, she's young enough to be my kid) -- can do on their own. And in a world that doesn't even know how to treat mental health problems, there are no therapists for Shallan to go to. And given the level of trauma she's sustained, even with help it wouldn't be an easy road. Shallan is, in a manner of speaking, trapped in the lies her own mind tells her. She lacks the necessary perspective to even understand how to properly process her trauma. She needs help to dig her way out, but she doesn't know help is even possible, let alone who to ask for it. Can it be frustrating to read? Sure, and it's completely reasonable to get a little uncomfortable during her passages. But is it really fair to judge a teenager for failing to fix herself when even an experienced therapist would likely need years to help her untangle it all? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say no. It is not. And as frustrating as it can be for some people to read her POV sections, I invite you to take a moment and try and empathize with her, because living in that kind of brainspace is much, much more difficult than reading about it. *I'm one of the 0.1% of people who managed to muddle my way through on my own. It wasn't easy, and was only possible because I have an abnormally high level of self-awareness and ability to analyze myself. And it took years. I didn't really reach a reasonable level of functioning until I hit about 30, and I'm still not completely 100%. I'm finally getting some support for the ADHD and executive functioning disorder. The OCD is never going away; I just have my tics under enough control that I'm able to mask them well enough that it's rare for anyone to notice them.
  3. They haven't quite gotten that far. Up until the pandemic hit, it'd been a steady increase year-to-year. 2019 had around 900 people. 1,000 is their current venue's maximum, I think, hence this year's cap of 500. They're doing their very best to make this as safe as possible - half capacity, limited events, and a vaccination requirement for attendees.
  4. I will, of course, be there! (I'm always there.) And, as usual, I will have my little stash of 17th Shard badge ribbons to hand out to any Sharders wandering about. I should be easy to find - just spend some time in the Sandertrack room and you're bound to spot me on a panel sooner or later. Planned hair color is purple, or a pink-to-purple ombre. Also, to everyone who is going, I'm going to shamelessly plug myself for a moment: be sure and grab yourself a copy of the JordanCon anthology! My very first published story "Urban Planning" lurks inside awaiting the eager eyeballs of readers. Reeeeeeaaaaaad.
  5. You did. "Double posting" refers to any time when you post twice in a row in one thread. That's a no-no on the Shard.
  6. Thing the first: please do not double-post. This is one of the basic forum rules. You can edit your second post's text into the first and hide the extraneous one. Thing the second: now you have met one. I am a Kemetic Pagan; my gods are the ancient Egyptian pantheon. I need you to understand that you just deeply insulted my faith.
  7. So, the scientific truth about gender and biological sex is not that simple. There's a lot of scientific study that's been done on this. Reams of data. Here are a few links: UCLA - Challenging Gender Identity: Biologists Say Gender Expands Across A Spectrum, Rather Than Simply Boy And Girl https://socgen.ucla.edu/.../challenging-gender.../... NY Times - Anatomy Does Not Determine Gender, Experts Say - (this one might be behind a paywall) https://www.nytimes.com/.../transgender-trump-biology... Scientific American - The New Science of Sex and Gender https://www.scientificamerican.com/.../the-new.../... Harvard - Between the (Gender) Lines: The Science of Transgender Identity http://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/.../gender-lines-science.../... AP News - Sciences Says: Sex and Gender Aren't the Same https://apnews.com/2a67da6515aa48e68e56cd97817b097a... World Health Organization (WHO) - Gender and Genetics https://www.who.int/genomics/gender/en/... Medline Plus Encyclopedia - Intersex https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001669.htm... That's a pretty basic primer, I think. Genetics are weird y'all. Chromosomes can trade genes - including the one that expresses biological sex, ending with a switch between X and Y chromosomes. A ton of different genes control hormone generation and receptors, leading to a huge variety of different hormone balances per individual. And that's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to biological sex and gender expression. None of this is simple.
  8. I mean, if you want to go hang around in corners of the internet where people are freely allowed to be terrible to each other for the lulz, be my guest. We, however, have a very reasonable desire for the Shard to not be an awful place with awful people saying awful things to each other. That's good, because we're not going to be changing them.
  9. Happy birthday!!!

  10. Locking this because while there are good reasons to necro threads, this just...wasn't. Sorry.
  11. It really depends on the topic of the thread and how relevant it is to current knowledge/events. I know that some forums frown on thread necros, but honestly, we're not that concerned about it. There are plenty of cases in which an existing theory thread may get data from a new book where it makes sense to continue the existing conversation (even if it's 19 months old) rather than start a new thread. This is doubly true when the original poster wants to pull it back up and discuss the new developments. Granted, I do get a little amused on the odd occasion when somebody pops in and quotes one of my posts from, say, 4 years ago and says, "But this this is wrong! Here's why." I usually giggle to myself and then respond and point out that I made said post X years before the book in question proved my devilish cleverness to be nothing more than a flight of fancy. So it's not bad to necro threads. Just pay attention to dates and things when you pull up an old discussion so you don't feel embarrassed later.
  12. This is a thing of gloriousness.
  13. Why, hello, Rejection Senstivity Dysphoria! It's been a while since you came out to play. Thanks for giving me this bout of deeply illogical anxiety about tomorrow night's writer critique group meeting, I'd almost forgotten what it feels like to be totally crippled with nerves over nothing.

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    2. Slowswift

      Slowswift

      Sounds like it.

      Thumbs up and good luck!

    3. Kaymyth

      Kaymyth

      As it turns out, everything was fine. Nothing terrible happened. Nothing even mildly bad happened. The sole purpose of my anxiety was to make me anxious.

    4. Slowswift

      Slowswift

      Yay!

      Anxiety's a sack of storms like that. Glad it went well!

  14. Come to the Discord. Joooin usssss.