Modal Seoul Posted September 11, 2017 Report Share Posted September 11, 2017 13 hours ago, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said: So a thing happened..... Congratulations to you both, @Mrs. Delightful Ferring. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistrunner Posted September 12, 2017 Report Share Posted September 12, 2017 On 9/10/2017 at 5:18 PM, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said: So a thing happened..... Congrats to you both! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Slowswift Posted September 12, 2017 Report Share Posted September 12, 2017 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Mistrunner said: Congrats to you both! Dare I say... the perfect pear? Mega congrats to @Mrs. Delightful Ferring and @Pinnacle-Ferring! Edited September 12, 2017 by Slowswift 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orlion Blight Posted September 12, 2017 Report Share Posted September 12, 2017 On 9/10/2017 at 6:18 PM, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said: So a thing happened..... Shoot, we still aren't prepared for the shadows cast by the conjunction of ethereal spheres! I'll have to rush my esoteric preparations and use less than stellar ingredients for my alchemy.... Oh, wait... THAT thing! *cough* excuse me...uh... Mazel tov! Here's Asimov! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrikerEZ Posted September 18, 2017 Report Share Posted September 18, 2017 On 9/10/2017 at 5:18 PM, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said: So a thing happened..... Congratulations!!!!! I'm so happy for you and @Pinnacle-Ferring 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shqueeves Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 Although this is a slight necro, I feel like my relationship with my dad took a hit last week. I'm not going to go into too much detail, but suffice it to say that he disapproves of my reluctance to go to school dances 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darkness Ascendant Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 6 hours ago, Shqueeves said: Although this is a slight necro, I feel like my relationship with my dad took a hit last week. I'm not going to go into too much detail, but suffice it to say that he disapproves of my reluctance to go to school dances 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistbornwithakitty Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 7 hours ago, Shqueeves said: Although this is a slight necro, I feel like my relationship with my dad took a hit last week. I'm not going to go into too much detail, but suffice it to say that he disapproves of my reluctance to go to school dances I feel you. My relationship with my dad has never been brilliant either. You two will work it out though, I'm sure. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Left Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 Mine wasn’t the best for most of my life either. Since I’ve moved to university and had a lot more grown up things to do we’ve grown a lot closer though. It takes time, and it takes work. I wasn’t ever great at reaching out to him. One thing I’ve learned though is that you can become closer to anyone if you cook for them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steeldancer Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 5 hours ago, Left said: Mine wasn’t the best for most of my life either. Since I’ve moved to university and had a lot more grown up things to do we’ve grown a lot closer though. It takes time, and it takes work. I wasn’t ever great at reaching out to him. One thing I’ve learned though is that you can become closer to anyone if you cook for them. ^^ this is truth. For instance, my Grandma. The ultimate cook. I love her so much, she makes so much food. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darkness Ascendant Posted October 18, 2017 Report Share Posted October 18, 2017 Oh dear, my post didn't seem to work there. @Shqueeves Give each other space basically. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Honor Spren Posted December 8, 2017 Report Share Posted December 8, 2017 Woah resurrection sort of. Anywayses, I need some advice. There’s this guy at school who I have a crush on, but I know for a definitive fact he is not interested. There’s this other girl and they’re not officially dating yet but they have confirmed feelings and are basically just waiting for winter break. So, yeah, I definitely want to get over him but the thing is I genuinely enjoy talking with him and stuff just as a friend. Anyone know how to stop feeling romantic attraction for someone without completely severing a friendship? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silverblade5 Posted December 8, 2017 Report Share Posted December 8, 2017 4 hours ago, The Honor Spren said: Woah resurrection sort of. Anywayses, I need some advice. There’s this guy at school who I have a crush on, but I know for a definitive fact he is not interested. There’s this other girl and they’re not officially dating yet but they have confirmed feelings and are basically just waiting for winter break. So, yeah, I definitely want to get over him but the thing is I genuinely enjoy talking with him and stuff just as a friend. Anyone know how to stop feeling romantic attraction for someone without completely severing a friendship? The only real advice I can offer is determining what you enjoy, and just focusing on that. Perhaps doing things in a group might help with distancing yourself romantically while still maintaining the friendship. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delightful Posted December 11, 2017 Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 On 08/12/2017 at 4:48 AM, The Honor Spren said: Woah resurrection sort of. Anywayses, I need some advice. There’s this guy at school who I have a crush on, but I know for a definitive fact he is not interested. There’s this other girl and they’re not officially dating yet but they have confirmed feelings and are basically just waiting for winter break. So, yeah, I definitely want to get over him but the thing is I genuinely enjoy talking with him and stuff just as a friend. Anyone know how to stop feeling romantic attraction for someone without completely severing a friendship? That sounds rough . I don't really have advice except maybe give it time? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soyperson Posted December 11, 2017 Report Share Posted December 11, 2017 On 12/7/2017 at 9:48 PM, The Honor Spren said: Woah resurrection sort of. Anywayses, I need some advice. There’s this guy at school who I have a crush on, but I know for a definitive fact he is not interested. There’s this other girl and they’re not officially dating yet but they have confirmed feelings and are basically just waiting for winter break. So, yeah, I definitely want to get over him but the thing is I genuinely enjoy talking with him and stuff just as a friend. Anyone know how to stop feeling romantic attraction for someone without completely severing a friendship? As Del said, certainly give it time. The only real advice I can give you is what not to do, so. Don't try to sever connection from him, that doesn't help anything. Don't try to find someone else to focus on, because rebounding is never a good coping mechanism. Try your best not to be bitter about the other girl, and just focus on the fact that you can still be friends with him, and try to appreciate that all you can. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NamelessThirteenth Posted December 22, 2017 Report Share Posted December 22, 2017 Can someone please explain to me what this thread is? TBH I thought it was for lonely people needing help with their relations, but close inspection showed some married couples (congrats!!!), so... I really wanna know so that I know what I can post on this thread 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A Budgie Posted December 22, 2017 Report Share Posted December 22, 2017 32 minutes ago, NamelessThirteenth said: Can someone please explain to me what this thread is? TBH I thought it was for lonely people needing help with their relations, but close inspection showed some married couples (congrats!!!), so... I really wanna know so that I know what I can post on this thread I think it's a bit of a mixed bag. If you've got relationship issues, or just general news about your relationships, getting married, anything really, you can post here. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NamelessThirteenth Posted December 22, 2017 Report Share Posted December 22, 2017 How about techniques for relationship creation? I can do that 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shqueeves Posted December 22, 2017 Report Share Posted December 22, 2017 6 hours ago, NamelessThirteenth said: How about techniques for relationship creation? I can do that If you feel that it'll contribute, go for it 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattig89ch Posted December 23, 2017 Report Share Posted December 23, 2017 On 12/22/2017 at 5:51 AM, NamelessThirteenth said: How about techniques for relationship creation? I can do that Sure, that might help a few of us. Myself included. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delightful Posted December 24, 2017 Report Share Posted December 24, 2017 On 22 December 2017 at 0:51 PM, NamelessThirteenth said: How about techniques for relationship creation? I can do that Sure! This is basically all things relationships, including both platonic and romantic. Questions, advice, news, venting, anything. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattig89ch Posted December 24, 2017 Report Share Posted December 24, 2017 Not to steal anyone's thunder, but I just found this on the youtubes. Take it with a grain of salt, but it might be helpful to some. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NamelessThirteenth Posted December 25, 2017 Report Share Posted December 25, 2017 Alright, here we go, @mattig89ch, @Del-light-full... The Art of the Lure - Part I Disclaimer: This is not a complete guide to landing the girl/guy of your dreams. Keep in mind that these do not always apply, and they are not sure win. This is, as you can see, an art, not a science, so please keep that in mind. Warning: This guide's intended purpose is to help the user land the girl/guy they desire. This is NOT a skillset to be used on everyone indiscriminately, as this is a midnset that I despise, and it would greatly offend me for you to iuse it that way. I am also not responsible for any damage to the user, be it from incorrect use, or the intended target's reaction. This will, I hope, be a complete guide...however I don't have the time to sit here and write consecutive for about two hours, so I'll publish it in parts on this thread ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Lesson One: Conquer your fears As simple as this sounds, his is usually what stops most people from approaching the girl/guy of their choice. It is the first, and most likely the largest hurrdle you will ever face in your path into the Art. Unfortunately, there isn't much I could say at this point, besides that you must always think positive thoughts. Don't put yourself down - the minute you imagine a failed scenarrio after ou approach the girl/guy, you have already failed in reality. Keep a positive outlook. Also, push yourself into it. I'm not saying to profess your love at step one. However, this is the starting point. Start a conversation, say hi...anything. What worked for me is that I'd just stop thinking about it. There's a linebetween courage and stupidity, and I just launched myself into the stupid and went ahead and started a conversation. Finally, don't be afraid to try again. He/she is a person, not a life or death apocalypse run. You will try again, and maybe then it'll turn out fine ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Lesson Two: A smile - the greatest weapon Simple - smile more, and smile often. A good excercise is to spend a long time, say a day, forcing yourself to smile, whatever it is you're doing. In a coule of hours you'll find that this habit sticks, and it'll also have the benefit of keeping you happy. Studies show that smiling aids the brain's release of endorphins, and keeps you happy. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Lesson Three: The Four Elements of Starter So, you want to start a conversation. How do you do it? Simple. Experience and studies show that the human mind finds it easy to speak on four things: Goals, Money, Studies and Fitness. Of course this varies from person to person. You'll see that cosmere is not up there, and for a good reason. This is generalised, because this may be the first time you talk to this guy/girl. If this is the case feel free to use the four elements of starter. Ask him/her What are you planning to do in the future? Or Did you study for the exam? Of course, these all don't apply if you know her well. While you may be inclined to use one of these starter topics, know that it is always better when you use your own. If you know he/she likes books, talk about books. If you know she (not he) likes Cosmere books, talk to her about them, then send me her number... All in all, you'll find that conversations become much easier to hold the more you know about him/her. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Lesson Four: Forcing an answer Okay, this sounds weird. For the record, DO NOT TORTURE YOUR CRUSH. There, I said it. There a some techiniques out there which are basically methoids of asking your question so that you do not receive no for an answer. Extremely, devilish, this method is probably the most powerful weapon in your arsenal. That said, do not overuse it - it, as most weapons, wears out from extended use. The Double Bind: Simplest method of them all. You want to ask for, lets say, his/her notes. When you ask your question, bypass the question completely and underpin it with intricacies...alright that sounds confusing. Here's an example: "Can I borrow your notes and return them to you after lunch? Or can I keep them till tomorrow?" This tricks the brain into focusing on the second question. Rather than think about whether they actually want to give you the notes, they'll think about the time frame given. The good thing about this method is that it can be practiced: try it on your friends and family. There are also many other techniques mentioned across a variety of media, so go out and explore, although this proved for me the simplest and least confusing one ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mattig89ch Posted December 25, 2017 Report Share Posted December 25, 2017 @namlessthirtheeth nice tips! thanks for them. I have a hard time with step one, much less 2-4. But they are good to at least keep in mind. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oversleep Posted December 26, 2017 Report Share Posted December 26, 2017 21 hours ago, NamelessThirteenth said: "Can I borrow your notes and return them to you after lunch? Or can I keep them till tomorrow?" This tricks the brain into focusing on the second question. Rather than think about whether they actually want to give you the notes, they'll think about the time frame given. The good thing about this method is that it can be practiced: try it on your friends and family. There are also many other techniques mentioned across a variety of media, so go out and explore, although this proved for me the simplest and least confusing one Actually, that kind of question would set off many triggers. At least for me - I mean "this person here just assumed I would give them my notes just like that! What in Damnation?". I'm not saying technique is wrong or bad, but much more subtlety is needed. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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